Thank you so much for your reply.
I absloutly see this pattern and this does explain it really well. I wonder how would I be able to "use" Mars or strengthen it to help me with relationships? Does this mean acting it out in sports or some type of action (Aries).
Probably. Mars is one of your strongest planets: domiciled, in an angular house, and unaspected except for being the apex of a yod. That means you yourself have very strong Mars energy. You can do one of two things with that energy: own it or disown it. If you own it, it comes back to you in a healthy way. If you disown it, it comes back to you in an unhealthy way, and that is apparently what's been happening.
In traditional astrology, a strong Mars would indicate that Mars things are likely to go well for you. I'm modern, not trad, but I do see that, and from a modern perspective, I would say that a strong Mars drive means you're driven to do Mars things, and yes, they probably will go well for you most of the time. The combination of Aries and the seventh house suggests competition of some kind.
The seventh house isn't just about partners, it's also about open enemies. That doesn't have to be as ominous as it sounds. Open enemies can simply mean competitors. If you're on a sports team, the people on the team you're competing against are your open enemies, while you're on the field. They might be your friends off the field, but in the context of the game, they're your rivals, your open enemies. They're also your partners, in the sense that playing off of them sharpens your skill and develops your strength, and that they get the same benefits from playing off you.
What competitive things are you interested in? Sports? Debate? Something else? Is there something competitive that you've wanted to do but not done? Or that you used to do, and liked, but gave up?
If you're female, you'll have come under plenty of pressure to disown your Mars. Being "too" aggressive or competitive is considered unfeminine in our society.
When we disown parts of ourselves, we tend to draw people in who reflect that disowned part, and usually not in a healthy way, because the people we draw into our lives, particularly in a romantic situation, are only as emotionally healthy as we are. When the disowned part of you is represented by a placement in your seventh house, that's all the more likely, because what's in your seventh house indicates what kind of people you draw into your life, both romantically and otherwise.
You also have other placements that suggest you're especially prone to drawing in people who reflect your shadow side: Pluto in opposition with your Venus, both domiciled, and Pluto in opposition with your sun; and the legs of your yod with its apex in the seventh house being your Scorpio moon and your seventh house's traditional ruler.
You can't get rid of any placement in your chart, but you can work with it consciously, and you need to, in order to have a healthy relationship, and that doesn't just mean a healthy romantic relationship, but also a healthy relationship with yourself. If you are consciously doing your own shadow work--and it seems that the most crucial step is owning your Mars--you'll draw in people who can help you do that work consciously. Right now, you're drawing in people who either are reflecting that unconscious shadow and out of control, or enable you to avoid it altogether. Neither is a healthy relationship, and neither is the right kind of partner for you.
I guess I might simply find a person who is both Scorpio and Pisces but know that the relationship will go through parts where i feel more platonic and other not- but with the same person/
Before you can have a good relationship, you need to do your own self work, reclaim your Mars. To paraphrase a quote from Gloria Steinem (who has a very strong Mars herself), it's not about finding the right person, but being the right person, and to find the right person, you have to be the right person.
The kind of person you'll find when you are the right person--an empowered, mature Mars person--will also be an empowered, mature Mars person, unlike the abusive immature Mars guys you've dated. Probably with some Pisces-like and Scorpio-like traits, too, and probably with some earth sign-like stability, since your Venus and both of your seventh house rulers are in earth signs, but right now is not the time to be looking for that person. It's more important to build up yourself in relation to the Mars part of you.
Could you maybe explain the role of the YOD here? I'm new to this aspect.
What I know about yods is already in the last two posts. I'm also new to this aspect. I heard a lecture on them a couple of months ago, but I haven't done any study of them before or since. This thread is the very first time I've seen a yod problem clearly indicated. I'm learning by interpreting your chart!
If you want to learn more about yods, join a discussion on them, or start one. I think there's a yod thread or two somewhere in Natal Astrology, maybe the Modern Astrology board, or maybe the Aspects board.
