Astrodawn
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I need input and advice from someone who is good with synastry readings, Im am completely confused about what to do and need help!
I met my current BF 5 months ago, we met very shortly after he had split up from a very volatile short term relationship (4 months) in which he was very angry about what his ex had done to him, she had continually threatened him with the police everytime they fell out, he said he had had enough of her and ended the relationship, and she went to the police and lied about him being abusive to which he was arrested and cautioned due to no evidence (she has a history of doing this to other men I know this as fact) he was so outraged by the injustice and the fact he couldnt vent his anger he couldnt stop thinking about it.
We started off as friends, our birthdays/age are only 10 days apart, and we are very similar (I had also had a very similar injustice happen to me 7 months before) and over the next few weeks we spoke every day on the phone, went out at weekends and connected on a very 'same' level. I empathised deeply with his predicament having been in a similar place myself and we found we had a highly similar view/principles/morals on life as well as interests, and everything else at the time he was totally honest with me about how he felt and that he couldnt/didnt want to be reminded of his disastrous past relationships by being in love again.
For the past 4 months we have been in an intimate relationship and I have stopped at his house Friday - Sunday evening every week. During that time we are constantly in each others company and have never had a crossed word and the time we spend together is happy full of laughter and completely enjoyable on both parts. We fell out for an hour once...but that was during the week not in each others company. During the week we have been in constant contact, hours on the phone and continual texts. The intimacy started off slowly but has been developing on a weekly basis, until now it feels like the most solid and stable partnership I have ever had, we are so highly compatible in each others company and I can see myself being able to be in a long term relationship with him without the usual chaos that inflicts my love life because we are true friends.
He is not very affectionate verbally and isnt one for holding hands etc but over the past 4 months he has increasingly shown real consideration and signs of making me feel cared for and valued by little things I only have to say I like something and he buys it for me again not big gifts but his fridge is filled with things I like, he has put a bin in the bathroom for my lady things, he cooks for me continually, etc I have been introduced to his best friend and I am always invited to go out with them both, although recently he prefers to spend his time with just me, he speaks to his mum about me, he uses the phrase 'we' and 'us' all the time, his plans always include me in the future and we have planned to go away in March, he talks about us being old together and we are planning christmas together where he wants me to stay for the week, I have even had a say in the choice of colour for his new front door for his house to which he said he told the salesman it was his GF's choice.
The confusion -
When I first started seeing him he was always talking about his ex but this has decreased steadily over the months so that at the moment its getting intermittent. Last week while he was telling me a story on the phone about his ex's always saying love you this i love you that, I commented and asked him if it did his head in with him not being affectionate to which he blew his stack and said ' I was with them, I told you that im not going to love again and that I should stop digging into his personal feelings about his ex's and that he wasnt prepared to be reminded of love again at this time, and that I wasnt to talk about romance or love, and that simply I wasnt butterfly girl.
I was going to pick my stuff up a few days later and finish things there and then, but he rang me and said, he was sorry, he was just hurt from what had happened and that he'd had real feelings for his ex that he cant just switch on and off and that he just needed time. He then text and said I really dont want us to ever fall out. I spent the weekend with him which was as good as ever but what he said especially about butterfly girl and the lack of verbal affection between us has now started to confuse me. His actions say one thing, his words say another.
My astrological input -
We have similar hard charts and both have what I affectionately call the virgo bad boys.
He has:
Venus conjunct mercury
Venus square pluto
Venus square uranus
Venus square Mars
- all his relationships over the past 15 years have been crazy, obsessive and volatile. I think he is addicted to the butterfly feeling of the new relationship which is fueled by anxiety stress and arguing, even though he says hes tired of it now, he thinks those feelings equal love, the more volatile the more he feels he is in love. Is it because he doesnt feel this agression/instability with me that he thinks im not lovable??
With me we dont argue, we are not volatile and we get on incredibly well.
This is an absolute surprise because in synastry we have:
his venus/mercury square my pluto
his venus/mercury square my uranus
his venus/mercury square my mars
but I also have natally
mercury square pluto
mercury square uranus
mercury square mars
all our charts are the same apart from a an exact quincux moons both 7 degees aquarius/virgo.
Should I follow my brain and stop seeing him as my feelings for him are increasing rapidly and I am going to fall in love with him, or should I follow my gut instincts based on what I feel from him and his actions and just continue and wait for him??
Any input will be gratefully received, i will attach both the synastry and composite, i would like to know if the long term potential is there or am I just going to get hurt?
I met my current BF 5 months ago, we met very shortly after he had split up from a very volatile short term relationship (4 months) in which he was very angry about what his ex had done to him, she had continually threatened him with the police everytime they fell out, he said he had had enough of her and ended the relationship, and she went to the police and lied about him being abusive to which he was arrested and cautioned due to no evidence (she has a history of doing this to other men I know this as fact) he was so outraged by the injustice and the fact he couldnt vent his anger he couldnt stop thinking about it.
We started off as friends, our birthdays/age are only 10 days apart, and we are very similar (I had also had a very similar injustice happen to me 7 months before) and over the next few weeks we spoke every day on the phone, went out at weekends and connected on a very 'same' level. I empathised deeply with his predicament having been in a similar place myself and we found we had a highly similar view/principles/morals on life as well as interests, and everything else at the time he was totally honest with me about how he felt and that he couldnt/didnt want to be reminded of his disastrous past relationships by being in love again.
For the past 4 months we have been in an intimate relationship and I have stopped at his house Friday - Sunday evening every week. During that time we are constantly in each others company and have never had a crossed word and the time we spend together is happy full of laughter and completely enjoyable on both parts. We fell out for an hour once...but that was during the week not in each others company. During the week we have been in constant contact, hours on the phone and continual texts. The intimacy started off slowly but has been developing on a weekly basis, until now it feels like the most solid and stable partnership I have ever had, we are so highly compatible in each others company and I can see myself being able to be in a long term relationship with him without the usual chaos that inflicts my love life because we are true friends.
He is not very affectionate verbally and isnt one for holding hands etc but over the past 4 months he has increasingly shown real consideration and signs of making me feel cared for and valued by little things I only have to say I like something and he buys it for me again not big gifts but his fridge is filled with things I like, he has put a bin in the bathroom for my lady things, he cooks for me continually, etc I have been introduced to his best friend and I am always invited to go out with them both, although recently he prefers to spend his time with just me, he speaks to his mum about me, he uses the phrase 'we' and 'us' all the time, his plans always include me in the future and we have planned to go away in March, he talks about us being old together and we are planning christmas together where he wants me to stay for the week, I have even had a say in the choice of colour for his new front door for his house to which he said he told the salesman it was his GF's choice.
The confusion -
When I first started seeing him he was always talking about his ex but this has decreased steadily over the months so that at the moment its getting intermittent. Last week while he was telling me a story on the phone about his ex's always saying love you this i love you that, I commented and asked him if it did his head in with him not being affectionate to which he blew his stack and said ' I was with them, I told you that im not going to love again and that I should stop digging into his personal feelings about his ex's and that he wasnt prepared to be reminded of love again at this time, and that I wasnt to talk about romance or love, and that simply I wasnt butterfly girl.
I was going to pick my stuff up a few days later and finish things there and then, but he rang me and said, he was sorry, he was just hurt from what had happened and that he'd had real feelings for his ex that he cant just switch on and off and that he just needed time. He then text and said I really dont want us to ever fall out. I spent the weekend with him which was as good as ever but what he said especially about butterfly girl and the lack of verbal affection between us has now started to confuse me. His actions say one thing, his words say another.
My astrological input -
We have similar hard charts and both have what I affectionately call the virgo bad boys.
He has:
Venus conjunct mercury
Venus square pluto
Venus square uranus
Venus square Mars
- all his relationships over the past 15 years have been crazy, obsessive and volatile. I think he is addicted to the butterfly feeling of the new relationship which is fueled by anxiety stress and arguing, even though he says hes tired of it now, he thinks those feelings equal love, the more volatile the more he feels he is in love. Is it because he doesnt feel this agression/instability with me that he thinks im not lovable??
With me we dont argue, we are not volatile and we get on incredibly well.
This is an absolute surprise because in synastry we have:
his venus/mercury square my pluto
his venus/mercury square my uranus
his venus/mercury square my mars
but I also have natally
mercury square pluto
mercury square uranus
mercury square mars
all our charts are the same apart from a an exact quincux moons both 7 degees aquarius/virgo.
Should I follow my brain and stop seeing him as my feelings for him are increasing rapidly and I am going to fall in love with him, or should I follow my gut instincts based on what I feel from him and his actions and just continue and wait for him??
Any input will be gratefully received, i will attach both the synastry and composite, i would like to know if the long term potential is there or am I just going to get hurt?