Victimhood: what and why?

Rawiri

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"It's unfortunate then, that you managed to get so much wrong on something that was easy."
I'll add that to: "I know you're trying your best. That's what scares me." :lol:

Lol well I'm glad at least you found it funny.

Though, I don't want this to turn into a "beat up on waybread" thread, since that isn't fair.

So I'm going to take this opportunity to apologize.

I am sorry for that statement, waybread. It was out of line and out of character. I took some offense to what I saw as a thinly veiled manipulation attempt and what I considered a flippant response.

What I said in general, still stands though.

Rawiri, where did you get all of your facts?

I find that really interesting. "They are fond of sexual jokes." :lol:

I have access to large databases of data on large segments (and small...) of various populations. The same data that conglomerates, companies, governments and even some individuals use to decide how they will best present messages (and thus manipulate the people) to get what they want...whether that be selling a product...or getting someone in office.

Some smaller segments of this data is sold off (and gathered) by places such as Facebook and Google and available to the "public." So you or anyone here could get a sample by opening an "adwords" account or facebook business account for advertising, looking at the audience insights. Amazon also stores massive amounts of data, although I'm not sure how publicly available that is...

Of course, this is all "the average" and doesn't apply to any one individual. There are people of all sorts...but the majority does sit as I said. And certain "segments" within those groups have some differences.

I will add, astrologically I am uncertain (meaning it's never something I've looked at), but I suspect we shouldn't look so much to Saturn, Neptune etc but more to Mars and the Sun. Since they give the potential "vision" and "fight" that a person might have to improve their lives. Saturn etc would certainly show adverse circumstances, though.

And on that note I will say I think I am done with this particular thread...I've had my say and don't really have much more to say.
 
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waybread

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Rawiri, [deleted attacking comment - Moderator]

Since I've done both self-help (human potential) seminars and studied astrology, both as a married person, and we are middle-income as a couple, I conclude what any statistician will tell you: that some kind of data trend or average does not necessarily apply to particular individuals. I don't fit most of the rest of your profile, either.

What is your data source? It's not good enough to be general, if these are small or biased convenience samples.

As you note yourself:

Statisically speaking, people can be outliers in a data trend. In the practice of astrology, we should be able to determine who marches to the beat of a different drummer. They will often tell us that this is how they feel.

If you want to get picky about demography, on average there is a female/male ratio of about 51/49, which tends to support more males at birth but widen in women's favour with age, as women tend to live longer than men. Moreover, people can and do change income categories through job loss, divorce, retirement, or misfortunes. People go to university later in life, and reap benefits, and so on.

Single people who live alone on average tend to be poorer than those in permanent relationships because they cannot share household expenses advantageously. If you've never taken or looked into these self-help seminars, some of them are pretty expensive, so they require some discretionary income, which participating in on-line astrology does not.

Then some of these seminars specifically cater to business people, who naturally would be more likely to read business media, so that's another bias.

Astrology is still highly popular in India among all economic sectors, a country of over 1 billion people.

And here's the thing-- as you would know from reading charts for people. Divorce happens regularly. A once-married mom turns into an anxious single. An up-and-coming engineer loses his job and stays unemployed for six months, as his savings run out. An employed software developer finds her co-worker hitting on her or being snarky for no reason. A good kid turns bad. A stock broker learns about predictive astrology and consults a financial astrologer.

Anyone can have a Dark Night of the Soul, when everything they thought was real and good and solid evaporates. This type of event often turns people to astrology.

Our job is to assist them. The question is, how best to reach them.
 
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waybread

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I'll let the long answer stand.

But the short answer is that when we interact with a deeply unhappy person, she's not some kind of demographic. She's an entire individual, who deserves the best reading we know how to offer.
 

love-thinking

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Hi folks-- so, I'm not going to express myself well or be able to give this topic the sensitivity it deserves, but.... how do you explain victimhood (def: a person who has been harmed or injured by another or external event, *type A and type B) in a chart?

Mostly people come to an astrology forum because they're unhappy or mightily bothered by something. We don't see OPs stating, "I'm really popular, happily married, and rich: how do you explain that?"

Usually we see people who are truly lonely, upset at how their lives have gone, financially broke, and so on. Sometimes their conditions are only temporary, sometimes they seem to be life-long. In reading horoscopes, our commitment is to be helpful to them: but sometimes this seems impossible.

*Type A: People who have a strong, objective case for being a victim: an abused child, a war or famine refugee, a persecuted religious minority.

*Type B. People who feel victimized by events that happen to a majority of people in one way or another: a bad break-up with a lover, few friends, a feud with a family member, unemployment, low self-esteem.

These categories are not entirely discrete: sometimes people whom I would classify as objectively victimized have a positive can-do attitude towards life, sometimes turning their personal tragedy into a positive commitment to help others in a similar situation. Sometimes a lonely person seems deeply committed to sustaining an unhappy isolation vs. trying to improve her situation.

Sometimes "victims" simply want us to tell them when the stars will hand them a desirable mate, clear out their debts, or hand them a job. Sometimes with no thoughts that we can be the authors of our own misfortunes, in which case, there's more inner work to be done. They don't want an astrological truth that might suggest there's no job or mate in sight.

I stress that people with a mental health condition, like clinical depression, are kind of a special case. They cannot "think" themselves happy, but oftentimes they can mitigate their condition with medication, therapy, or self-help activities like yoga. Also, an addict by definition cannot "think" himself out of an addiction.

What is your take on the problem? Do some people choose to understand themselves as victims rather than taking positive steps toward to improve their lives in ways consistent with their horoscopes? If so, are they actually an opening for astrological advice on how to improve their situation? If so, how would you express your advice such that the person is open to your horoscope reading?

What would be the horoscope placements for self-defined victims, if any?

Neptune? Chiron? Saturn?

Your thoughts?

So this is an interesting topic so I must have something to say about this. I haven't done enough research about this but I have done some research nonetheless and have come to some conclusions but don't take my word for it because again it's not like I did a research study.

I'm going to start off with talking about Type A. Type A in my opinion is Saturn but saturn isn't really physical or sexual abuse. It's prolonged period of utter pain. This is poverty, major depression(that causes insomnia, not just suicidal ideation), and major disability. Saturn is not pain and transformation, it's prolonged karma. Moon-saturn indicates depression. And let's say you are not "depressed." You will have other ways in which you'll experience this sort of morbid nothingness that saturn brings.

There was this case, look it up with this hitch hiker kidnapped, turned into a sex slave and locked into a box when she wasn't being used by the husband of the couple who kidnapped her. Look up girl in the box. She surprisingly didn't have any pluto links like I thought she may have, she had moon conjunct saturn. Pluto and other dark entities are painful, yet chaotic and dramatic and stimulating. Saturn is like entering a dark void you can't get out of. Saturn also has a lot to do with BDSM and bondage. The actress for fifty shades is a triple capricorn. Saturn doesn't get enough credit for its kinkiness. Uranus and Pluto usually is known to be the kinky ones. So saturn is likely to be poverty, disability, prolonged boring soul-sucking pain, and major depression and torture.


Second type I will talk about is: Any type of abuse whether it is emotional, sexual, physical, domestic, and love-related. These type of people attract chaos and drama into their life. And usually they have very dynamic auras, and lots of creative energy they haven't learnt to utilize inviting a sort of carthasis. Some of this creative energy, you can classify also as sexual energy.

To understand this you need to understand duality. People that attract these situations to them the most either have very light energy or repressed unacknowledged dark energy.

Light energy(indigos, kind souls)-neptune, pisces, venus in the picture will help as it will make you more attractive to people but think of light energy as predominantly neptune. However, Venus is also creative energy but venus ALONE doesn't attract abuse, it only attracts attention.

Dark energy-Scorpio/8th house energy/Pluto, Black Moon Lilith and from my research Algol. There are other very dark entities that I haven't researched very much and they are Eris, Kali, Persephone etc.

Neptune allows people to project their fantasies onto neptune and they can make others see whatever it is they want them to see. Neptune is fluid, it can merge and empathize, and it is extremely compassionate. It is the higher octave of venus who is also kind but is not as empathetic. So a lot of the times, these people do in fact attract predators who prey on their feminine allure and vulnerabilities.

An example of this is Marilyn Monroe-she had neptune conjunct her ascendent and in aspect to her sun. Mars also quintile her neptune. This girl got raped at an orphanage and got sexually abused/harrased in most of her foster homes. The girl wasn't plutonic, but did have BML in her 1st house.

Now let's talk about the repression of dark energy. Plutonic energy usually creates the psychologist, sergeon, dark artist, rape victim, obsessed lover, sorcerer or serial killer archetype. The thing here is using your energy in a way that will have the most DRAMATIC effects. All of these archetypes but the victim does passionate and transformative work. Their work defines who they are. They're passionate about something. It's the HEALTHY use of their sexual energy.

The victim that gets abused represses this energy, usually religiously and often disowns this energy altogether. Eg. There was a time when I was so ashamed I was into the occult, mystery and even astrology. I would erase all of my google searches. But of course you know the drill, transformative situations in my life made me own these parts again. Again, this doesn't justify or call for victim blaming, we are socialized in a way that makes us repressed some parts of us. It's not our fault.

An example of this is the Black Dhalia case. She had moon conjunct pluto. Her father wronged her and didn't really like her. After he invited her back into his life(he faked his suicide during her childhood and later sent her a letter and invited her to live with him), he threw her out for being lazy. She was a struggling actress and wasn't really doing much with her life. So the fact that she wasn't properly utilizing her potential, this sort of energy meant that she had to face it in other ways and put in the right transit, and you have a famous murder.

Black moon lilith operates like pluto to an extent. They say lilith has all sorts of energy from pluto, venus, uranus, neptune, and mars(I've heard she has the energy of all five of these planets). If there's any truth to this, this means there's a lot of dark sexual and attractive energy in the individual. This of course causes extreme reactions in people. So let me demonstrate how scary this entity can be.

this is from darkstar astrology:

Drew Barrymore (97’) Actress; tasted Liliths forbidden fruit from childhood, smoking aged 9, alcohol abuse and snorting coke at 13 and an attempted suicide. Uninhibited with her body, she has exposed her breasts frequently in public and on talk shows. Drew is estranged from her father. One of her most famous roles is the negative spurned Lilith in the shape of a manipulative teen seductress in Poison Ivy. Drew has defined her sexuality thus “Being with a woman is like exploring your own body, but through someone else. When I was younger I used to go with lots of women. Totally. I love it”. ~ The Guardian

Connie Francis (104’) Singer; suffered under her dominant Italian father and endured abuse in some of her 4 marriages and eventually had a breakdown. She was raped and beaten after a performance so she became a recluse for 7 years. Her father put her in exile once more by committing her to a mental hospital due to severe depression. Years later she had a further psychotic episode and was once again institutionalised, this time put under guardianship (Sun). She came thought it all, successfully returning to shine once more as a singer.

Steven Spielberg (73’) as a young Jewish boy often found himself an outcast and bullied by older males “In high school, I got smacked and kicked around. Two bloody noses. It was horrible.” ~ New York Times. His blockbuster films reflect the themes of alienation. Interestingly in his family settings, the father is often absent. River Phoenix (84’) was a dedicated environmental activist and won a humanitarian award. It has been suggested that the drug abuse, which resulted in his untimely death may have been a result of suffering abuse at the hands of a religious cult to which his parents were at one time missionaries. Eve Sedgwick (38’) felt the ugly duckling within her good-looking family so she escaped into the intellectual world and made her name in “Queer studies”. She then became a self-professed “gay studies guru, who happens to be a heterosexual woman married to her fella”. Eve had both Mean & True Lilith conjunct the Sun.

valerie solanas-author of SCUM manifesto(society for cutting up men)-she was raped by her father when she was younger. She had a lot of lilith aspects, you can find her chart on astrotheme if you google her.

Jodie foster and Drew berrymore has lilith on the MC. Jodie foster had a fan obsessed with her who tried to shoot raegen. Girls with Prominant lilith placements to sun, ascendent and MC have this strong in their identity and for them to own their lilith, first there needs to be a catharsis. Keep in mind, although Jodie foster didn't experience abuse(not that I know of), she did act in the Accused(a movie where she was shown getting raped) again replicating the theme of destructive sexuality and how sex can be used for power and destruction. Drew, again was talked about but also keep in mind this theme of how sex can be used for power can be seen in her movie "poison ivy."

Anyways keep in mind, the three different types of lilith can be manifested in different flavours. Black moon lilith being the most refined but still chaotic as these two women expressed this theme of sex and power through art.

As you can see there is a common theme here with lilith. Feminine destructive sexuality. Lots of sexual/kundalini energy and they can be magnetic and provoking even if they are not pretty. And often, family members especially males can have a huge problem with this chaotic energy and can abuse and use this individual as a scapegoat. The person is too dark and yet free for family members to handle and that's apparent in the case of Drew Berrymore. And BML, the most refined out of the three is associated with neptune, so again you also have projection with the combination of scorpio like energy. Think of BML as the ultimate transpersonal body, three in one.

I know it's a lot of information to take in. It's kind of complicated but hang on here.

Last but not least, I don't know how important this is. I want to talk about algol. They say moon with algol people die a painful death. Don't know how true that is. Linda Lovelace who was a pornstar forced to do the most horrific acts ever has moon conjunct algol. Carrie fisher also has this conjunction and she suffered from bipolar disorder but also keep in mind, as she was the daughter of an actress, she may have been safer than linda lovelace.

Moon conjunct Algol :

Pier Poalo Pasolini (00’); Italian film director, poet, visionary, writer, intellectual. Openly gay in 1940. His work was highly contraversial and critical of consumerism. Brutally murdered by being run over many times by a car. Christine Keeler (05’); British showgirl who brought down the British government. Darkstarastrology.com bought (06’). Patricia Highsmith (17’); Novelist of psychological thrillers. Alcoholic. Seen as hard and cruel or being great fun with a dry, biting with depending on the friend. Bi-sexual never married. Carrie Fisher (30’); “Princess Leia” in Starwars. Bi-polar with alcohol and drug addiction. Peter Sellers (44’); Depressive and insecure behind his roles. Erratic behaviour was esacerbated by alcohol and drug use. Baby Azaria Chamberlain; Stolen by a dingo out in the Australian bush. Kate McCann; Three year old daughter went missing from hotel room. Linda Lovelace; **** star who later said she was forced into it by her pimp husband. Sid Vicious/Nancy Spungen Davison Chart; Herion addiction, alleged death pact between them. With North Node. Mick Jagger.


Anyways, algol like lilith can be dark feminine destructive/creative energy. Pluto of course is very similar. There was another article on algol but I can't find it right now.

Algol 26º ~ “Violent death or extreme sickness. If also in no aspect to a benefic, or there is no benefic in the 8th house, and the dispositor of the Sun in a day nativity or if the Moon in the night one is in square or opposition to Mars, the native will be beheaded; if the luminary culminate he will be maimed, mangled, wounded or torn to pieces alive; and if Mars is at the same time in Gemini or Pisces his hands or feet will be cut off.” [4] “To passionately link oneself to an idea of cause, to destroy or create, to seek the edge of chance. Knowing no limits to ones desire for intensity.”

So this is even more intense and dangerous than pluto. Again this is just a quote from a website that has worked for me in the past. No proof or sufficient resarch.
 

waybread

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love-thinking, thanks so much for sharing the results of your studies, with some of the astrological reasons why some people seem either to have horrific things happen to them, or they enact horrific things happening to dramatic characters.

Which to me illustrates an important point. Sometimes we are stuck living out difficult horoscope placements. At other times we may be able to use the arts to live out the Dark Side in a more vicarious way.

Like Uranus I think Lilith can be this utterly unwanted disruptive energy, or the great liberator. She reminds me of Clarissa Pinkola Estés' book, Women Who Run With The Wolves, which is a very positive look at women who refuse to be domesticated and deferential.
 

waybread

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My husband is studying philosophy in his retirement. Lately he's been reading about the Greek philosopher Epicurus, (341-270 BC) who devoted considerable thought to the question of what makes people happy. My husband has been sharing some Epicurean insights with me, and some of them seem so appropriate to the OP.

A big idea of Epicurus was ataraxia-- a Greek word variously translated as tranquility, equanimity, serenity, or inner peace. This isn't an extreme state of joy, and Epicurus didn't promote gourmet food and drink, with which the term Epicurean is sometimes associated today. I see ataraxia as meaning happy-enough.

Some quotes from http:societyofepicurus.com/ataraxia/ :

"When a loved one dies or we've been wronged, we often tell ourselves we'll never forget. But... do we really wish to live our short years regretting what could have been, or nurturing our grief and hatred? Is it intelligent to make ourselves miserable while living in the past...?

"The value of forgetfulness is one of the most important principles in the science of happiness. The inability to let go is sometimes a disease....."

Again, I'm not blaming people for being objectively victimized by bad things that shouldn't happen to anyone. I'm thinking more of people whose lives are objectively good-enough but who beat themselves up (and sometimes people close to them) with shoulds, shoudn't be's, anger about the past, and so on.

Nor is the purpose to belittle anyone who is hurting, but to consider how best to offer a hand up.

My guess is that Epicureanism would go down better with a relaxed Pisces than with, say, a Scorpio who sees revenge as simple justice.

So for anyone still keeping up with this thread, I wonder if you see a consciously poor memory or the ability to let go as an asset, and how you achieved it.
 
Think a different way and on a more open plane.

Being able to hold onto something BUT look at it subjective and objectively will actually aid you more than looking at something and being narrow minded with it.

It's how i work, i look at things and pin point reasons and find answers within it all, i see myself and who i was and what i did and my reactions etc, and i draw from it, it's thorough and good practice IMO.

Those who can simply gloss over things that affect people are only in my opinion not the sort who are of a more understanding or skeptical nature.

Look at the wider audience also, you will have 1 coming in saying i am so sorry this happened to you, another offering a plan you should perhaps take, and another saying oh you are just after attention.

However behind the people.

I am so sorry this happened to you (Healed person, kind heart)
Action plan (is working on their own plan of action and advises you)
Attention seeking sad person (Actually wounded or has wounded others and is stuck)
 
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InfoOverload2

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InfoOverload2, well, I sure can't relate to "Eye of the Tiger!" I'm not out there to street-fight with anybody. So I guess I'd opt for viewing astrology's highest use is a tool for self-awareness; and ideally, self-improvement.

This song more resonates for me during tough times:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8_sk3EQPX1U

I don't know how metaphysical you intended your post to be, but I understand it at a highly metaphysical level. At one point in my life I read and was highly impressed by the Jane Roberts Seth books. "Seth" never discussed astrology so far as I recall, but he did say that souls choose the circumstances of their incarnations, and generally, the people with whom they will reincarnate with. He doesn't at all take a past lives/bad lives heavy karma approach. Rather, souls choose the circumstances most conducive to their personal growth and creativity. Souls may choose difficult lives to further particular growth trajectories. But any life, even a child who dies at birth, has a learning experience, according to Roberts/Seth.

To me, it was just a short hop from this view of life to think that if souls choose the circumstances of their birth, then there is a horoscope for it.

Sometimes when I see a really difficult chart, I think of that person as being a spiritual athlete, who wanted an extra-challenging lifetime. But of course, if the person hasn't asked for a metaphysical reading, I'm loathe to foist it on them. I mean, I think that the person wants to know when he's getting a job offer, not necessarily that he's engaged in an existential struggle. But I absolutely do take your point.

Can you link some sample of your approach to horoscope reading when the person is deeply unhappy and feels unable to progress? It would be instructive to see how you handle it.

Hi waybread,
These are just my thoughts and understandings. This is where someone who studies the mind or human behavior would come in. Think of ways to trick the mind into being interested enough to keep searching.

Once I found astrology, it kept my interest because I needed to feel validated. It didn't matter what I thought of myself, if there is a way to see yourself/your qualities in a way where it can be massively validated externally, the person with a damaged self-validation and Pluto in Scorpio 3rd house will dig deep into themselves.

But when they start digging deep into themselves using astrology, they will come up short. However, the law of the universe says "ask and you shall receive"

I'm working through my own issues but what's helping me at the moment (like today), is to list my choices. What's in my power and what are things I can't control?

It took months of deep thought to figure out that this is what I need to grow right now. Awareness is the answer for anyone struggling and I don't think the astrologer will ever be able to give enough information, but the information should be manipulated in the best way to invoke a path to inner truth.

And maybe it already does this. But if all astrologers kept this in mind when doing interpretations, it would be great. The "harsh truths" some like to throw around aren't needed because they aren't real, it's just a their interpretation/perception. Inner truth is the only truth
 
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waybread

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CancerEvolve, you seem like a genuinely kind person. If I were hurting on a profound meaning-of-life level and didn't know where to turn, I'd want to sit at your kitchen table and have your compassion wash over me.

InfoOverload2, thanks for expanding on your insights. I especially liked your statement,
"Inner truth is the only truth."

Obviously nobody lives in someone else's skin. Sometimes the best we can do as horoscope readers is to try to be helpful, as best we understand the person and the concept of helpfulness. Maybe helpfulness means just pointing to an unexplored route, or opening a window, but it's always up to the chart native to decide if this resonates or whether to follow it. Which is sort of like therapy with a clinical psychologist. His/her job is to assist clients in reaching their own inner realizations, not to tell them how they should feel.
 

CapAquaPis

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A quote from Rawiri

Worldwide there's a disproportionate amount of those interested in astrology who come from Spanish linked countries such as South American countries and the Philippines. (Meaning these cultures and their identities, as well as of course those of India etc are important backdrops for their understanding and approach to life)

That's just basic demographics. But when you go into other things it gets more interesting.


Some cultures and religions discourage an interest or belief in astrology, esp. many forms of Christianity and Islam. However, pre-Islamic Arabia used lots of astrology, and was widely practiced in medieval era Europe. I encountered a good number of African-Americans in astrology forums over the years. And yes, it is more popular in India than most of the world. Many cultures have their own versions of astrology, esp. Celtic, Chinese and Native Americans.
 

InfoOverload2

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A quote from Rawiri

Worldwide there's a disproportionate amount of those interested in astrology who come from Spanish linked countries such as South American countries and the Philippines. (Meaning these cultures and their identities, as well as of course those of India etc are important backdrops for their understanding and approach to life)

That's just basic demographics. But when you go into other things it gets more interesting.


Some cultures and religions discourage an interest or belief in astrology, esp. many forms of Christianity and Islam. However, pre-Islamic Arabia used lots of astrology, and was widely practiced in medieval era Europe. I encountered a good number of African-Americans in astrology forums over the years. And yes, it is more popular in India than most of the world. Many cultures have their own versions of astrology, esp. Celtic, Chinese and Native Americans.

Rawiri is correct.And I think if people understood that modern historians and even the people who inhabit the Pacific Islands are grossly underestimating the history of civilizations throughout time, there would be no harm in saying "hey let's all look here". It's the notion of "they are better than me /I am better than them" that holds us back
 
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