Abby83
Well-known member
I'd say being constantly in detriment in horary has everything to do with the circumstances in which you're casting horary charts, and those are the usual kinds of circumstances that impel people to post horary charts on this site. Nobody turns to horary for situations that are working out great. If everything's going well, you don't feel a need for advice.
If you're in a situation that's causing you problems, and they're not problems you can solve on your own, of course you're going to be represented in horary by a hindered planet. That reflects the hindrance you're already experiencing in the situation you cast the chart for.
As for the natal charts, I think that reflects you having people in your life who are challenged by relationships of the type that you have with them--or, more accurately, need that kind of relationship to be different from the usual. If, for example, you have a spouse/partner whose seventh house and/or its ruler is significantly challenged, they're probably going to have some significant challenges, in general, with couple relationships, no matter who they're coupled with. If that person is you, then you get to be represented by that planet.
But challenges are relative. Maybe you're in relationship with someone who needs something different from the usual in that kind of relationship. Maybe you're someone who can provide it.
However, relationship astrology is not that simple. Not even close. Don't boil yourself down to just a planet in someone's natal chart. If you're doing relationship astrology between you and a particular person, look at the big picture: the synastry, the composites, all of that. If you find yourself repeatedly having the same kinds of relationship problems, no matter who you're in relationship with, that's likely to be reflected as a challenge in your own chart, or a result of you suppressing something that's strong in your chart, or both.
Studying your own chart would help you know what to work with. Do you perhaps need a different kind of approach to personal relationships than you've been taking? Different kinds of people than you've chosen before? If that's something you need, being able to take a different approach or make different choices requires self work... and yes, developing self love.
Thank you. This made me feel a LOT better. Especially the first two paragraphs.