The 11th house is the house of friends. You have no planets there, but we look at the moon, which rules the sign of Cancer on the 11th house cusp. Your moon is in independent Aries, making an exact square to Neptune. This makes me wonder if you are very idealistic about what a friend can deliver; at the same time as you have a very independent streak yourself. Even if you don't mean to do so, you may give off signals that you expect a lot from friends, yet need your freedom from their potential demands.
Funny enough, I actually saved a quote a while back that said, "I demand unconditional love and complete freedom. That is why I am terrible". I looked up the natal chart of the guy who said this and he had Aries Mars opposite Neptune but I'm not sure about the houses and whatever. Idk just thought that was significant!!
And yes, you're exactly right!! I wonder if it's necessarily freedom from demands though?? I tend to pop in and out socially, like I might not hang out with them for two weeks at a time and then expect to be integrated back in perfectly. I think it's more of an emotional freedom?? I don't might meeting demands with my sun/mars in 6th and Virgo asc. In fact, I strive to meet demands hence me making my poor sensitive self open to all this criticism by creating this topic!!
I think the real kicker in your chart is your exact sun-Pluto square, with Mars thrown into the bargain. This aspect shows up a lot in charts of people with a "dominate or be dominated" attitude towards relationships. Even if you don't mean to do this, you may come across to your friends as agressive or controlling. Sometimes people with sun square Pluto learned as little kids that they couldn't trust others to support them; an attitude that continues later in life. It makes it hard to establish a friendship without the element of trust and with a dynamic of whose will prevails in a relationship.
Yeah, my old best friend told me once that I expect everyone to change for me. This is really true. I've been working on this especially knowing that I hate when people curtail my freedom!! I notice that when I don't feel like I have the "upperhand" I'm uncomfortable. I need to do some ego-dissolving!!
Virgo rising can come across as critical or picky to other people. (Don't ask me why-- I have Virgo rising, as well.) Virgo is ruled by Mercury, so we look to Mercury for more information on your first house; i. e. how you come across to other people. Your Mercury makes no major aspects and is located in iconoclastic Aquarius, further suggesting some issues in being sociable with other people.
Yeah, my friends get really pissed when I go left-wing humanitarian radical feminist LGBTQ activist on them... I don't really care to change that though because someone needs to call people out on their ignorance.
Nah, I really only do it on certain things. I feel like they take my debates too much to heart, but what can you do?? I would rather sacrifice my friends' approval a bit than have humanity suffer when ignorance literally only need be changed by enlightenment.
So these aren't egregious sins or anything, just something to be aware of. Also, astrology aside, just see if your friends have dropped any broad hints about why they prefer not to spend much time with your; or perhaps you have a mutual acquaintance who can tip your off. Then the purpose here would be to control any natural instinct to get defensive: remember, they would only be giving you perceptions, which are valid as perceptions, if not reality.
Thanks waybread!! I asked about it today, actually, and apparently part of it has been that they suspect I'm a pothead (???!!! The last time I smoked pot I ended up having an anxiety attack running away from a bus and wandering confusedly along a strip until a psychic I went to earlier this year found me and asked me if I was ok and gave me a ride home. Can you imagine oh my god) and I seem to have chosen the "living with mom at home when I'm 30" life path. I wonder if that's all it is. I feel like they look for reasons to drop me, really. They know that this is really uncharacteristic of me and it's more due to the hard year I've been having that I've been slacking off academically. I just tend to laugh about my academic failings publicly and make it look like I don't care when I actually do, but humor is my only coping mechanism.
They've completely dropped me as a group before because they were embarrassed by me socially because I've been too weird or too anything at all, so it wouldn't surprise me if it was due to this again.
However, you have some strong relationship points in your chart, as well. The 7th is the house of long-term relationships. Saturn in that house suggests you would do well to form a committed relationship with an older person, or someone who seems unusually mature. Your active 5th house suggests you have a rich imagination and are probably creative in your chosen activity.
Your sun-Mars in Pisces in the 6th house suggests an orientation to work, service to others, and/or health. Pisces has the ability to be a good listener, while Mars suggests an athletic orientation. (If you don't have one, I recommend you develop one!) See if you do just fine with a volunteer service activity, a team sport, or getting along with co-workers. Here the focus is on your shared work or activity, and not so much on personality-based concerns.
If it's any consolation, people do grow out of many youthful problems as they get a bit older.
I am attracted to people who are older/mature. I actually see it as kind of a fault, really... I seem to be looking for more of a parent than a mate in the romantic department!!!
And you reccomend SPORTS??!!?! To ME?!?!?!?
I am genuinely shocked!!! HAHAHA everyone makes fun of me for how clumsy and unathletic I am!!! I vehemently detest sports. In fact, I made a
video in which I sarcastically photoshopped myself into athlete's bodies.
And I always find my biggest power struggles come out to play through working with others. I tend to snap and get frustrated. My mom always told me if you want something done right, you've gotta do it yourself, and it really stuck with me..... I am really bad at teamwork and I tend to prefer working alone.
Now that I know there is hope, maybe I'll be able to develop past that!!
Thanks so much for you analysis, waybread.
Much appreciated!! I'll watch out for what you said and develop accordingly.