ShadowStriker
Banned
My parents were, essentially, nothing but abusive to me my entire life. If you read some of my stories that I've shared on here, you can get a general idea of what it was like to grow up. However, this Christmas I'm going to head back home to see "family", the same family that ostracized me for well over a decade. To forgive the ones that ruined my life, it's hard; but is it even doable?
Can you do it? The family that beat me, neglected me emotionally, where I had to witness some of the most ugly things, I wonder why I would even bother to go back? The only relationship I have with them is for financial reasons, where they help me out from time to time (and it's mainly my father, as he has been the only one that has truly stuck around). I haven't spent Christmas with them for roughly 4-5 years. And before that, there was another long gap as well.
Knowledge is power; at least to me. When you understand one's motives, whatever they may be, you understand why someone did what they did. I think that is the first step to forgiveness and moving on. Accepting that my mother is severely mentally ill, I think, is the first step. That's how I am coming to forgiveness through the events that happened with my ex at least.
Flights are booked, a hotel is on reserved, but I don't know. Regardless of understanding why these people acted the way they did it hurts. How can one forgive people that have done horrible things to you? Can anyone share any of their stories?
Can you do it? The family that beat me, neglected me emotionally, where I had to witness some of the most ugly things, I wonder why I would even bother to go back? The only relationship I have with them is for financial reasons, where they help me out from time to time (and it's mainly my father, as he has been the only one that has truly stuck around). I haven't spent Christmas with them for roughly 4-5 years. And before that, there was another long gap as well.
Knowledge is power; at least to me. When you understand one's motives, whatever they may be, you understand why someone did what they did. I think that is the first step to forgiveness and moving on. Accepting that my mother is severely mentally ill, I think, is the first step. That's how I am coming to forgiveness through the events that happened with my ex at least.
Flights are booked, a hotel is on reserved, but I don't know. Regardless of understanding why these people acted the way they did it hurts. How can one forgive people that have done horrible things to you? Can anyone share any of their stories?