it's been kind of cool saying things and you expressing appreciation, but i definately don't want to give the impression that i (or anyone!) has necessarily any real insight into *your* life
i do appreciate the fact that you're a self-tasker, with a sense of pride in accomplishment, and that you can take a statement from others without an emotional reaction (of course here, you're kinda inviting observations about your person) but anyway -
here's a "proof" for kindness...
if you research "epistemological solipsism" which is western taxonomy for buddhism/plato's cave, you'll find it to be irrefutable .. which isn't really worth anything because we're dealing with such empiric, sweeping statements about the nature of being and observation..
..the consideration is, that if, intellectually (buddha = intellect) we are unable to verify that there is existence beyond the self, we are in a very wide (and improbable) vale of consideration indeed.. if all of these shadow forms are, vaguely possibly some part of the self, then it would be reasonable to treat "them" well, in case they are some presently unreachable part of our greater self.
it's really a bottomless draw of consideration.. our distinction of other is permissive (the luciferian hypothesis that other is distinct therefore we can get away with murder ... a real big "oops!" if karma or confluent awareness has some latency..) or creative.. once we enact something, we induce a universal state where such things may occur, and, psychologically, this constitutes our mind. from that point forward, we have to accept that such things can occur in existence, as we observe in typical states of guilt (knowledge) and fear associated with wrongdoing. eg. "it's often much easier not to worry about being chopped up into tiny little bits if you've never actually engaged in the procedure".
by being "kind" we approach confluence and there is less disjunct between the forms we observe and our internal projections of life from these perspectives.
how are you going to want to understand the language of birds if all they are saying outside your window is "you ate chicken again! i cannot believe it!!! every day the chicken!"
read the tao te ching, cook scones. scones are easy, sense of accomplishment, and always please. practice khoomei before your throat gets all old and rigid. harmonic series, throat chakra.. frequency!
people say, it's better to regret something you have done than something you haven't. people say all kinds of b0ll0cks things though.