Loneliness and Depression.

sagittariussoul

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Hello all, so things have taken a darker turn for me again since it's that time of the year. You know, febuary 14th. And i've been alone all my life, and everyone else around me seems to be in happy, long-lasting relationships and it's hard to deal with. So I was just wondering if there was anything in my chart that might be causing this kind of inward pain? Or if there are any indicators of a better change? Any insight would be truly helpful. Thanks.
 

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FROG

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Aside from the chart keep up in mind that you increase your chances of finding someone when you put yourself where there are other singles, who are new on town or had some other reason to change their social habits, or add to them. It helps even more if you give of yourself to some organizations outside of work so you become known to a wide circle. Once you start doing this allow 3 years before a great success. Also, only expect to find someone a little interesting in 1 out of five events you try. Sometimes it takes ten.

The above is just based on numbers.

As for your chart. The pattern of planets suggest someone who is self sufficent without a partner or others to work with or for most if the time. The Moon in Aquarius can leave you detached where others might be more affected. Mars in Libra can motivate you to compete just when you need to buddy up. So it would seem you would be best w someone independent endent and self suffcient too. However you will need to figure out how to connect in your own way.

There are signs in the chart that you might do well w a long
distance relationship and or someone from a foreign culture.

It helps to practice 'dating' someone you could just enjoy an evening with, even if they are not a candidate for your heart. Be certain yo shake out any bugs in your physical attractiveness by getting honest opinions from others. As in, one genuinely affable fellow was so accustomed to wearing flippies on his glasses for work that he wore them on dates.

Perhaps one way to deal w Mars in Libra is ti chiose someine whio will take a dare irna challenge ir a bet w you. But that iften blows up a marriage. So what I see is that Mars in Libra types do well with an experienced sports team player who knows how to handle competitionand teaming well. Next, be aware that part if you will push to be alpha in the relationship just to be first. A lot if team playing types won't put up w that. It can help to choose someone who has good reason to benefit frombeing second to you, in exchange for your dominance. This means you probably don't get to pair up with that person you admire and tespect and think is your equal ir better. Because that person has zero benefit to gain by being second to you.

Just something to think about.
Sorry about tyos. Fix those later. .
 
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waybread

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You've got some placements in your chart that look like recipes for feeling that you do not have any friends and that life looks pretty bleak. For example, Pluto, the modern ruler of your 11th house of friends square moon-Saturn, sun-Mercury conjunct Chiron, Mars square Uranus-Neptune.

Have you been diagnosed with depression or another mental health issue? If not, you might tell your family doctor how you feel, and ask for a referral to a mental health specialist.

If you check out OK, I would suggest that you stop comparing yourself to other people. Some people are early stars who burn out young. Others are late bloomers. You are a unique person. I have noticed that 8th house people tend to be very private, so make sure you are getting out and about in situations where you can socialize and meet people.

You've been going through some heavy transits lately by Pluto and Uranus (your Libra and Capricorn planets) with Neptune squaring your Virgo planets. They are hard to deal with but their purpose is to test and refine the points that they touch. You are being asked to reinvent yourself on a profound level.

Are you at all spiritual?

A really nice aspect in your natal chart is Jupiter-Mars trine moon.

How do you experience it?
 

sagittariussoul

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Aside from the chart keep up in mind that you increase your chances of finding someone when you put yourself where there are other singles, who are new on town or had some other reason to change their social habits, or add to them. It helps even more if you give of yourself to some organizations outside of work so you become known to a wide circle. Once you start doing this allow 3 years before a great success. Also, only expect to find someone a little interesting in 1 out of five events you try. Sometimes it takes ten.

The above is just based on numbers.

As for your chart. The pattern of planets suggest someone who is self sufficent without a partner or others to work with or for most if the time. The Moon in Aquarius can leave you detached where others might be more affected. Mars in Libra can motivate you to compete just when you need to buddy up. So it would seem you would be best w someone independent endent and self suffcient too. However you will need to figure out how to connect in your own way.

There are signs in the chart that you might do well w a long
distance relationship and or someone from a foreign culture.

It helps to practice 'dating' someone you could just enjoy an evening with, even if they are not a candidate for your heart. Be certain yo shake out any bugs in your physical attractiveness by getting honest opinions from others. As in, one genuinely affable fellow was so accustomed to wearing flippies on his glasses for work that he wore them on dates.

Perhaps one way to deal w Mars in Libra is ti chiose someine whio will take a dare irna challenge ir a bet w you. But that iften blows up a marriage. So what I see is that Mars in Libra types do well with an experienced sports team player who knows how to handle competitionand teaming well. Next, be aware that part if you will push to be alpha in the relationship just to be first. A lot if team playing types won't put up w that. It can help to choose someone who has good reason to benefit frombeing second to you, in exchange for your dominance. This means you probably don't get to pair up with that person you admire and tespect and think is your equal ir better. Because that person has zero benefit to gain by being second to you.

Just something to think about.
Sorry about tyos. Fix those later. .

Hello Frog, thank you so much for taking the time to reply. Just reading somebody else’s input helps to enlighten me. Just as it helps when someone listens to you when you open up about something vice verse.

So would the moon in Aquarius make a person feel emotionally detatched from others? I have a tendency to keep these types of conversations bottled in because I don’t feel they’re worth talking about, usually. Unless there comes a point where I have to. I think with the lack of water in my chart, according to astro.com It may be hard for me to be compassionate and emotional?


I’ve always found that my long distance friendships work better than the close one’s I’ve had. So I think you’re probably right with that point.

As for dating, I’ve never had any experience. Even if it’s just spending time in the evening with a guy as just friends, they just don’t seem interested. There is someone i’ve managed to talk to but it’s only ever over the phone. He lives in the U.S.A i’m in the U.K.
 

sagittariussoul

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You've got some placements in your chart that look like recipes for feeling that you do not have any friends and that life looks pretty bleak. For example, Pluto, the modern ruler of your 11th house of friends square moon-Saturn, sun-Mercury conjunct Chiron, Mars square Uranus-Neptune.

Have you been diagnosed with depression or another mental health issue? If not, you might tell your family doctor how you feel, and ask for a referral to a mental health specialist.

If you check out OK, I would suggest that you stop comparing yourself to other people. Some people are early stars who burn out young. Others are late bloomers. You are a unique person. I have noticed that 8th house people tend to be very private, so make sure you are getting out and about in situations where you can socialize and meet people.

You've been going through some heavy transits lately by Pluto and Uranus (your Libra and Capricorn planets) with Neptune squaring your Virgo planets. They are hard to deal with but their purpose is to test and refine the points that they touch. You are being asked to reinvent yourself on a profound level.

Are you at all spiritual?


A really nice aspect in your natal chart is Jupiter-Mars trine moon.

How do you experience it?

Thank you for taking the time to reply, waybread. :)

I haven’t, but I did have an episode of a break down where I did end up telling my mum that I think I’m depressed, but she dismissed it with the comment: “Do you want to be sent to a loony home?” it’s not like her to say those types of things either, so she probably assumed I was being over emotional or something.


Comparing myself to others is something I tend to do. But i’m trying harder to teach myself to aprpeciate that everyone's unique (including me) like you said. Other than work, I don’t get out too much so that’s something i’ll need to change I guess.

As for being spiritual, i'm not as such. I have episodes where sometimes i'm interested in spirituality, religion etc but at the same time I go through phases where I don't believe in any of it. So would you say that i'm spiritually confused? Thanks again. :)
 
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