MissScorpio
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Why can't some people find love?
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Im glad when people do find love. I am only 20 but still never managed to find common ground with a girl/woman. Physically I attr. woman but its like they dont value me as a person. They dont see ME! I always try to understand them but they just turn around and leave.... and I hate it when they are all like this. WHAT! you have never been in a long relationship? Of cours not when I never had the chance.....my venus and moon are in scorpio and im intense in a relationship I seek that passion, i want to know a person inside out. Not many people truly like that I guess and my mars is also afflicted. N. Node is in scorpio in the 5th house which means I have very little soul exp. with love.Perhaps in past life I never wanted to find anyone and was very selfish. My time is running out and without some decent exp. i dont think I will ever know what love is. It will be rly. hard to recognize. I value whats inside of a person..... not the outside that much. I doubt people(women) value this that much....
I would also note that I think not all people are meant to be loved by a partner....why? Why are some people alone most of their lives? I know quite a few for that matter. All good people, but still ........alone
My 2 cents. And no im not being Pessimistic
just real....Well there are a bunch of reasons why some people can't find love? This is a loaded question
I do agree the answers lie in the self and your choices/emotions/fears, but also your family, environment and all that play into it. And of course astrology and your natal can play a role
For both a woman and man a bunch of reasons such as:
Socially: Fear (a whole bunch of reasons for it: past heartbreaks, fear of giving up losing freedom), insecurity, "bad luck" "bad timing," "poor choices in men,"
Astrologically, Afflicted Planets in:
Woman: Saturn, Sun, Venus, Mars, Pluto, Uranus
Man: Moon, Saturn, Venus, Mars, Pluto, Neptune, Uranus
Woman/Man:
Saturn: I have been reading Liz's Greene's Saturn: A new look at an Old Devil, and she points to Venus in aspect to Saturn as an afflicted in a woman's chart. She explains how in a chart a woman may reject or be insecure about their femininity in their chart. They may work against it or go to extremes (like a Femi-nazi or a prostitute). Fear is a motivation in this case
Sun: Sun represents father, but what if your father died at a young age or you never met your father. Your early upbringing and lack of a father figure or role may lead you to choose bad/poor partners; especially when afflicted.
Venus/Mars/Moon: I know we look to Mars for what a women is attracted to in a chart, and Venus for a man. What if the women has a strong mars is "too aggressive and combative" in a relationships. I know its a bit outdated thinking but men oftentimes want a feminine woman. and a women with a strong mars may not give that to him. Perhaps an afflicted moon can work the same way. It is possible to find love but are what mmn secure enough in himself will be willing to after this mars women. An afflicted venus in a man's chart may may him effeminate and he may be viewed as weak. Women do want a strong man that can provide and control them (in other ways of course ) Liz Green talks about Mars aspecting Saturn in a man's chart and how this may produce a man who's ruthless/cruelty, questioning of sexuality because they may reject or be insecure about their masculinity in their chart (kinda like venus aspecting saturn in a woman's chart)
Pluto/ Uranus/Neptune: Afflicted/strong pluto can make a mate too intense, controlling and obsessive..... an afflicted/strong uranus may make a person too unstable, rebellious, and too independent in relationships; while an afflicted/strong neptune may make someone too idealist, needy, unrealistic in love.
I know this is general chat so i gots to keep it general I think its alot about choice and knowing yourself and who you are. The choice to move past your fears and insecurities, to not hold back and give love a chance. Sometimes common sense may be lacking (not to be mean). Some people don't know themselves or what they want (and need) and they make poor choices and do stupid things and miss opportunities. We all make mistakes, but some people make them frequently to the point where you think they must be stupid/delayed. 
To be fair, sometimes it not them, and got to with who they attract (or not attracting). Sometimes they are confident, beautiful people who just can't catch a break, bad/timing, being ignored/denied constantly, who's partners don't know their worth, etc. Perhaps karma can come into..... IDK... it could be karma (i got to research karma more!!!) Who really knows??
I do agree the answers lie in the self and your choices/emotions/fears, but also your family, environment and all that play into it. And of course astrology and your natal can play a role
For both a woman and man a bunch of reasons such as:
Socially: Fear (a whole bunch of reasons for it: past heartbreaks, fear of giving up losing freedom), insecurity, "bad luck" "bad timing," "poor choices in men,"
Astrologically, Afflicted Planets in:
Woman: Saturn, Sun, Venus, Mars, Pluto, Uranus
Man: Moon, Saturn, Venus, Mars, Pluto, Neptune, Uranus
Woman/Man:
Saturn: I have been reading Liz's Greene's Saturn: A new look at an Old Devil, and she points to Venus in aspect to Saturn as an afflicted in a woman's chart. She explains how in a chart a woman may reject or be insecure about their femininity in their chart. They may work against it or go to extremes (like a Femi-nazi or a prostitute). Fear is a motivation in this case
Sun: Sun represents father, but what if your father died at a young age or you never met your father. Your early upbringing and lack of a father figure or role may lead you to choose bad/poor partners; especially when afflicted.
Venus/Mars/Moon: I know we look to Mars for what a women is attracted to in a chart, and Venus for a man. What if the women has a strong mars is "too aggressive and combative" in a relationships. I know its a bit outdated thinking but men oftentimes want a feminine woman. and a women with a strong mars may not give that to him. Perhaps an afflicted moon can work the same way. It is possible to find love but are what mmn secure enough in himself will be willing to after this mars women. An afflicted venus in a man's chart may may him effeminate and he may be viewed as weak. Women do want a strong man that can provide and control them (in other ways of course
) Liz Green talks about Mars aspecting Saturn in a man's chart and how this may produce a man who's ruthless/cruelty, questioning of sexuality because they may reject or be insecure about their masculinity in their chart (kinda like venus aspecting saturn in a woman's chart)Pluto/ Uranus/Neptune: Afflicted/strong pluto can make a mate too intense, controlling and obsessive..... an afflicted/strong uranus may make a person too unstable, rebellious, and too independent in relationships; while an afflicted/strong neptune may make someone too idealist, needy, unrealistic in love.
I know this is general chat so i gots to keep it general
I think its alot about choice and knowing yourself and who you are. The choice to move past your fears and insecurities, to not hold back and give love a chance. Sometimes common sense may be lacking (not to be mean). Some people don't know themselves or what they want (and need) and they make poor choices and do stupid things and miss opportunities. We all make mistakes, but some people make them frequently to the point where you think they must be stupid/delayed. To be fair, sometimes it not them, and got to with who they attract (or not attracting). Sometimes they are confident, beautiful people who just can't catch a break, bad/timing, being ignored/denied constantly, who's partners don't know their worth, etc. Perhaps karma can come into..... IDK... it could be karma (i got to research karma more!!!) Who really knows??
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I understand!!! I got a moon in scorpio and its difficult enough ...... u got venus (detriment) and moon (fall) in scorpio ..... man hang in there!!!!
Would that there be one astrological answer.
But there are many many ways that people are too messed up to get it.
And that's just the astrology. Heck you could be the most wonderful person in the world who lives next to the arctic circle in some little town in Finland, and won't move.
But there are many many ways that people are too messed up to get it.
And that's just the astrology. Heck you could be the most wonderful person in the world who lives next to the arctic circle in some little town in Finland, and won't move.
Oh if it was only the moon and venus.....pluto is there with jupiter and mercury.
natal leo mars squares the moon...... I always hang in there and never lose hope despite these positions
Some people prob. have it even worse then me.
nicely put, this world is complete madness...
