Torn between two people

The first chart is the composite chart between me and my ex fiance who I lived with for 8 years plus one year when we were much younger and not together. I broke up with him about a year ago and I have been with someone else for about 8 months. The second chart is the composite between me and my current boyfriend. Do you see any obvious red flags in either or both composite charts? The issue with the first is that I tend to alternately idealize and demonize him in my head. We get along better than anyone I have ever met but he has some serious issues with depression during which times he is completely inaccessible. The issue with the second is that he is insecure and possessive. He puts too much of himself into the relationship- as if I'm a life jacket. I also think he lies whenever it suits him. Specifically, I know he's made **** up about my ex who he is very jealous of and I can't tell if he believes what he says or not. I also know that he can be pretty ruthless when he wants to be although he's playing a pacifist right now. On the flip side, he has incredible work ethic and is very sweet most of the time. We also go out a lot more which is good for me because I have anxiety and going out regularly decreases that. https://astro-charts.com/chart/synastry/0b96d769e/ https://astro-charts.com/chart/composite/8a7aecc37/