Yes, there are men out there who want a woman to be the dominant partner in a romantic relationship -- but that is something that they choose of their own free will because for one reason or another, they find it arousing to be dominated and bossed around by a woman. I can only speak for myself, of course, but I see absolutely nothing wrong with what some people might call "alternative" relationships in which there is a BDSM dynamic -- although I do look askance at those relationships in which one partner is actively seeking to be verbally, psychologically, and/or physically humiliated or degraded because I question the emotional health of someone who actually wants that. (You should probably also be aware that not everyone understands alternative relationships, and some people choose to perceive them as a perversion). If you have a strong need to have this degree of control in a sexual/romantic relationship -- and there are men out there who will voluntarily, even eagerly, grant you an incredible amount of control! -- then I think it would be better for you to seek out men who are inclined that way as romantic partners. Indeed, a BDSM/femdom relationship might be one way for you to indulge and satisfy your craving for control in a way which is not destructive to your karma or disrespectful of your partner because you would be satisfying your partner's desires as well as your own. That being said, I think it would still be a good idea for you -- even if only in the interest of self-knowledge, which is never a bad thing -- to explore why you feel such a strong need for control. The more knowledge you have, the more choices you have -- and the more choices you have, the more freedom (and therefore power) you have. This is another one of the lessons of Pluto.
I think I should mention one thing, however, which is that the dominant partner in these kinds of relationships doesn't really have as much control over the relationship as it might appear on the surface. The person who sets the parameters of these relationships is actually not the dominant but the submissive partner because whatever happens in the relationship must be completely consensual -- strictly speaking, anything which is not completely consensual becomes abuse (and in the long run, abuse will end up harming you as well as harming your partner). What this means is that it's the submissive's needs and tolerance, not the dominant's, which really define and control the relationship although it doesn't look that way to most people. In the end, you're the only person whom you will ever truly have complete control over -- and paradoxically, the less you insist on controlling other people, the more willing they generally become to meeting you halfway. This is another one of Pluto's lessons that I've experienced personally.
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