freedomlover
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My Infamous Ex and I separated a little over 23 years ago. Everytime I think it's dead and buried - it's not. Holly's recent thread on her father resurrected the ghosts again. This is not the "Carrying a torch - can't get over him" deal. It's a little more unusual. I believe alot of my mental problems that I've discussed on this forum are rooted in our brief marriage of one year and three days. He turned from Jekyl into Hyde four days after we married. He was a sicko who loved to play mind games with me, and was abusive mentally, emotionally, and physically. Part of me knows this, and part of me still can't come to terms with it. I was seventeen and very naive at the time of our marriage - went into the marriage full of hope and came out a little over a year later a total wreck. I didn't have any psychological help or even emotional support at the time, so I think I just swept it under the rug, so to speak. I've spent the majority of the Pluto in Sag cycle sorting through this. I feel it's come to a point of resolution, and would like you all to help, if you would. I'm open to psychological approaches. I would especially like to know what was the reason for his mind games, and how they are still affecting me. That seems to be the most lasting effects from him- the mental/emotional jerking around. Although I would count the total rejection of any and all the love I tried to give him right up there as well. It's like he saw me throught sh**- colored glasses, and there was nothing I could do to change it.
Also, since I'm trying to start up a new relationship, I think it's best this is put to rest before I pursue it any further. As Wave pointed out on the other thread, I have some insecurities, and I think they point back to "The Infamous One". ( -winks-)
Our date of marriage was December 26, 1982 in Summersville, WV(between 2 and 4 pm, not sure)
His date of birth is August 13, 1964 in Summersville, WV 1:00pm
Mine is November 28, 1965 in Charleston, WV 9:32am
I have posted the synastry chart. I agree with Draco - Astrodienst isn't the greatest, but it's all I have access to. Also, I am an asteroids junkie - so asteroids enthusiasts, PLEASE respond. It would be a good lesson in asteroids for me, as well. Non-asteroid enthusiasts, please ignore the clutter, but I would like your take, as well. I did include mine and his names on here. I have found names to be quite synchronistically enlightening on the charts. I look at the "names" asteroids as just that - synchronicity in action - not that they have any particular meaning. (-coughs- .Draco ) However I think anyone would find it synchronistically unusual that my name in his chart is conjunct my Mars and is opposing my name in my chart conjunct his Venus.
Thanks to all for your help!!!
View Synastry Chart
Also, since I'm trying to start up a new relationship, I think it's best this is put to rest before I pursue it any further. As Wave pointed out on the other thread, I have some insecurities, and I think they point back to "The Infamous One". ( -winks-)
Our date of marriage was December 26, 1982 in Summersville, WV(between 2 and 4 pm, not sure)
His date of birth is August 13, 1964 in Summersville, WV 1:00pm
Mine is November 28, 1965 in Charleston, WV 9:32am
I have posted the synastry chart. I agree with Draco - Astrodienst isn't the greatest, but it's all I have access to. Also, I am an asteroids junkie - so asteroids enthusiasts, PLEASE respond. It would be a good lesson in asteroids for me, as well. Non-asteroid enthusiasts, please ignore the clutter, but I would like your take, as well. I did include mine and his names on here. I have found names to be quite synchronistically enlightening on the charts. I look at the "names" asteroids as just that - synchronicity in action - not that they have any particular meaning. (-coughs- .Draco ) However I think anyone would find it synchronistically unusual that my name in his chart is conjunct my Mars and is opposing my name in my chart conjunct his Venus.
Thanks to all for your help!!!
View Synastry Chart
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