OMG Just read the website and when she talks about the 4 types. My mom is the queen to the T. Of course I see the 3 other aspects in her too, but The Queen is the most dominant. My mom is not that much of a Witch. She never personally attacked my sister and I and was very rarely mean to us. The thing is, my dad was our shield, and all of my mom's rage/anger was directed at him. I suffered much more because of their fights, my dad's suffering, fear that my mom my die or embarrass than direct abuse per se. My dad is amazing though, and even though he got divorced and re-married he still takes care of her. I def. think that if my dad was not resolving her problems than maybe she'd put the blame on us. I feel like "I hate you, don't leave me" describes my mom's relationship with my dad to a T. She is still much more attached to him than to my sister and me. They have a Karmic relationship - insane how much they are interwined and connected. She can go a month without talking to me or to my sister but if my dad shuns her, she goes crazy. He has acted as her father figure for so long - and she was extremely close who her father who died when she gave birth to me.
My mother and father's relationship is so karmic. They were next door neighbors and my dad fell in love with The (Enthralling) Queen when he was 10. The Queen had too many suitors at the time and after being engaged to 4 different guys married my dad at 23. He was, obviously, the only one who would never leave her. My dad has the caregiver personality so it was the perfect match for disaster.
It's such a karmic relationship that my grandfather never liked my dad. My mom was his precious little Queen. The most beautiful and perfect of all. My dad was not good enough for her as nobody would be. However, when he was dying, his last wish was to talk to my dad. He only muttered the words: "Please take care of my daughter" and died. My dad took that really seriously. They are both 60 now and he's been re-married for 10 years but he still takes care of her. My stepmom takes care of her too. Lol. It's funny in a way. But yeah, they are tied forever. I'd really love to cross their charts but I'm such a novice that I don't think I'd understand anything. It's weird because I feel like my dad also has a strong attachment to her - not romantic at all but I guess as the girl he knew since he was 10 and the mother of his kids?
My mom has mellowed out now that she turned 60. I think only age/maturity could mellow her as like you said, on her 20-50's nothing could stop her from disaster. She never wanted to get better, she never admitted to having a problem, my dad was always the problem of her emptiness.
I remember such a distinct memory when I got confused at which side to believe in. My mom would look at my dad's phone bills like a maniac and try to convince me he was a cheater. I was about 10. My dad nevers spoke badly of my mom, was ALWAYS there for us, was a mom and a dad and also a father to my mom. So of course I "chose" the side quickly.
Would you take a look at my chart?
I'm a quadruple Aries (including the Sun and the Ascendant) and my Moon is in Capricorn. I have some squares but no opposition to the moon. I don't have cancer in any of my houses houses, but I do have 1 Pisces and 1 Scorpio - not in the most important placements though. Fire is dominant in my chart: 4 Aries and 2 Saggs but no Leos. I don't like the Leo personality. I think it is alreasy dramatic, histrionic and proud by nature. My mom always used to say she was a Leo - she was born in July 22. She wanted to be a Leo. I also have 2 Capricorn and 2 Geminis. My only Earth sign is Capricorn (twice) and my only water air sign is Gemini (2).
Anyways, link to my chart I tend to be a lot more neurotic, anxious, panicky than have BPD like emotions. I fear becoming a bad mom though.
Anyways, here is my chart:
https://imgur.com/a/q2eRFcw