Osamenor
Staff member
That doesn't mean finding someone through your job is a good way. People you work with are rarely if ever appropriate dating partners. It's often against workplace policy to date them, and even if that's not so in your workplace, it's still a conflict of interest.
Furthermore, people go to work to do a job and earn a paycheck, not to get hit on. Doing that in the workplace is a great way to get in trouble for sexual harassment. If you were male, chances are you would have lost a job for that already. At the very least, the one where a coworker quit because you made him uncomfortable. Women often get away with more of that, but are not immune.
You can meet people who have jobs without meeting them through your job. Most people have them (except at times like now, when the economy is so bad that many who have always been gainfully employed can't find work). If you don't know whether the guy you're meeting has a job or not, you can always ask. "What do you do?" is a normal conversation starter.
Saturn at your DC might play out as being attracted to people who are in authority over you. Bosses fit that bill.
At the very least. And even if it does work out, it opens the door to favoritism and makes people think favoritism is going on, whether or not it really is. If you were dating your boss and you got a promotion, or a coveted assignment, everyone would think you got it just because of your relationship with the boss, not on your own merits, whether or not that's true. Nothing you could say would convince them otherwise. In the long run, that could prevent either of you from being taken seriously, being promoted, or moving on to a job you really want.
Bosses can't afford to have close personal relationships with their subordinates, and the subordinates can't afford that either. Friendly relationships, yes, but it still has to stay professional.
Also, allowing dating relationships opens the door to sexual harassment claims. Big liability for companies.
For all of those reasons, most workplaces have strict rules against bosses and subordinates dating each other, and some don't even want coworkers dating. At the very least, if a relationship does develop, one of them has to be moved out of the chain of command or leave the job entirely. So even if your manager wanted to date you, chances are it would get him in serious trouble if he did.
Why don't you try that and see where it leads? If that's your dream, you might as well be doing your dream. You don't have to have a boyfriend before you can do anything else.
If you won't let yourself do your dream because you don't see it leading to a boyfriend, you'll never do your dream.
