This is a situation that happened last year.
An elderly lady is in hospital, then finally hospice with a terminal illness..
Older daughter A ( late 50's) having come from another city, stays at mother's house but spends each day at mother's side, from early morning till evening, to give comfort and support.
She is functioning in "emergency mode". When rushing out each morning, she sometimes forgets to lock the back door..or the bathroom window..
Daughter B , who stays home all day, lives in the flat beneath. She comes in upstairs every night to use the microwave . She makes a big point, each time, of giving 'A' a telling off about "forgetting to lock up" , complaining about needing to check after her, and that she needs to "make her take responsibility".
'A' feels increasingly stressed . Having Mars in Pisces, she soon takes to hiding in the bedroom to avoid B. (she has experienced nasty run-ins with her in the past and always came away worst off)
'B' ( Sun/Ven/Pluto in 8th) lets herself into the house by key & without knocking. She comes in at any time in the evening and it puts 'A' on edge, unable to relax..
Finally one day, 'A' decides to be assertive - tells 'B' to choose a time to come in - and stick to it. 'B' gets angry. She feels she has the right to come in any time, just like she always did when mother was there.
Final Scene - in the Hospice. Mother lying weak in bed.
Daughter A is there. 'B' walks in & sits down. Suddenly she gets up and launches into long complaint about how 'A' "is a bully", & bla bla bla bla etc
Shocked & mortified, 'A' exits the room.
Afterwards, when 'B' has left, 'A' re enters.
To her dismay, mother has gone very quiet and doesn't seem the same as before. She seems troubled. And way more tired than before. Later on she suddenly says to 'A' - " I wish you'd be nice to (B)"...
Just like always.
Needless to say, because of mothers weak condition 'A' doesn't try to correct her, but only nods lamely in agreement, feeling sick inside.
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How would you describe 'B's behavior above?
An elderly lady is in hospital, then finally hospice with a terminal illness..
Older daughter A ( late 50's) having come from another city, stays at mother's house but spends each day at mother's side, from early morning till evening, to give comfort and support.
She is functioning in "emergency mode". When rushing out each morning, she sometimes forgets to lock the back door..or the bathroom window..
Daughter B , who stays home all day, lives in the flat beneath. She comes in upstairs every night to use the microwave . She makes a big point, each time, of giving 'A' a telling off about "forgetting to lock up" , complaining about needing to check after her, and that she needs to "make her take responsibility".
'A' feels increasingly stressed . Having Mars in Pisces, she soon takes to hiding in the bedroom to avoid B. (she has experienced nasty run-ins with her in the past and always came away worst off)
'B' ( Sun/Ven/Pluto in 8th) lets herself into the house by key & without knocking. She comes in at any time in the evening and it puts 'A' on edge, unable to relax..
Finally one day, 'A' decides to be assertive - tells 'B' to choose a time to come in - and stick to it. 'B' gets angry. She feels she has the right to come in any time, just like she always did when mother was there.
Final Scene - in the Hospice. Mother lying weak in bed.
Daughter A is there. 'B' walks in & sits down. Suddenly she gets up and launches into long complaint about how 'A' "is a bully", & bla bla bla bla etc
Shocked & mortified, 'A' exits the room.
Afterwards, when 'B' has left, 'A' re enters.
To her dismay, mother has gone very quiet and doesn't seem the same as before. She seems troubled. And way more tired than before. Later on she suddenly says to 'A' - " I wish you'd be nice to (B)"...
Just like always.
Needless to say, because of mothers weak condition 'A' doesn't try to correct her, but only nods lamely in agreement, feeling sick inside.
* * * * *
How would you describe 'B's behavior above?
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(Just trying to lighten up a very bad situation.)
I'm not really a fan of his show--if it's still on the air?