DesertRain
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Hi,
I thought of posting a question that I've pondered about a lot. I know similar questions get posed here a lot and I hesitated to post this, but I'd just like to have an outside perspective.
The thing is, I've been alone all my life in the romantic sense (I'm 28 now). There has been almost complete absence of any sort of love life whatsoever. Now, there have been some opportunities, but in all cases there hasn't been enough mutual interest, whether on my or the other person's part. There is even a situation going on right now someone likes me very much but the feelings aren't exactly mutual. I have never been in love.
For the record, I am tall, handsome, fit and generally considered very likeable by friends and co-workers alike. I'm however also very solitary and enjoy my own company a lot. I choose my friends carefully and keep frequent contact with only few of them.
I think there are two causes for the "problem": pickyness and preferring by own company. Shyness and insecurity have also been part of the equation, but much less so now than something like 10 years ago.
If I think about it, pickyness and preferring solitude go hand in hand in my case. I consider myself to have limited resources for social interaction anyway, and I don't want to invest time and effort into a person and relationship if I don't have strong feelings for them and/or don't think there's any long-term potential. It's easier to be alone than try to make something less than ideal work. I don't do casual dating, and would only put myself into a relationship if I had a strong sense of its long-term potential.
Now for the astrological part of this:
My question is, given these placements, what advice would you give to me if I really don't want to be alone for the rest of my life? I don't believe the natal chart to be "fate" in the strict sense, but I recognize the force of certain predilections. The word "meant" is in quotation marks precisely because I know there are some choices that can be made, even if they are somewhat constrained by the existing energy patterns of the chart.
However, some part of me would also like to perhaps just accept that maybe I'm better off alone and give up on the hope to find the right kind of person.
Thanks for any comments.
I thought of posting a question that I've pondered about a lot. I know similar questions get posed here a lot and I hesitated to post this, but I'd just like to have an outside perspective.
The thing is, I've been alone all my life in the romantic sense (I'm 28 now). There has been almost complete absence of any sort of love life whatsoever. Now, there have been some opportunities, but in all cases there hasn't been enough mutual interest, whether on my or the other person's part. There is even a situation going on right now someone likes me very much but the feelings aren't exactly mutual. I have never been in love.
For the record, I am tall, handsome, fit and generally considered very likeable by friends and co-workers alike. I'm however also very solitary and enjoy my own company a lot. I choose my friends carefully and keep frequent contact with only few of them.
I think there are two causes for the "problem": pickyness and preferring by own company. Shyness and insecurity have also been part of the equation, but much less so now than something like 10 years ago.
If I think about it, pickyness and preferring solitude go hand in hand in my case. I consider myself to have limited resources for social interaction anyway, and I don't want to invest time and effort into a person and relationship if I don't have strong feelings for them and/or don't think there's any long-term potential. It's easier to be alone than try to make something less than ideal work. I don't do casual dating, and would only put myself into a relationship if I had a strong sense of its long-term potential.
Now for the astrological part of this:
- most of the planets below the horizon and in the first few houses of course point to introversion, which is strengthened by the Scorpio Asc conj Pluto + Mercury, I think.
- Libra Sun is in 12th house, which I guess also contributes to kind of reclusiveness.
- Scorpio Venus is all or nothing when it comes to relationships
- Uranus conj Moon in Sagittarius can contribute to a love of freedom and commitment phobia
- Mars in Capricorn is cautious in the arena of sexuality and being in the anaretic degree might bring a kind of confusion in regards to decision-making
- On top of these things, my progressive Venus has been retrograding since my early childhood and will continue to do so for a couple of decades still
My question is, given these placements, what advice would you give to me if I really don't want to be alone for the rest of my life? I don't believe the natal chart to be "fate" in the strict sense, but I recognize the force of certain predilections. The word "meant" is in quotation marks precisely because I know there are some choices that can be made, even if they are somewhat constrained by the existing energy patterns of the chart.
However, some part of me would also like to perhaps just accept that maybe I'm better off alone and give up on the hope to find the right kind of person.
Thanks for any comments.