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Unread 02-07-2016, 01:35 PM
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Are you the same age? Like, I have Sun/Mercury square Uranus/Neptune natal meaning I have this aspect with everyone in my age group. I'm not sure if I really feel it. I mean, I guess I have trouble relating to the collective values of my generation (for example, I hate social media...I could give more examples) I have trouble making/keeping friends with people too close in age and that could be the Uranus but other than that...

It's not like I feel a magical Neptunian connection with everyone I meet.
No, he is four years older than me.

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Re: Pluto aspects in Synastry - Who Has the Power?

It is always the outer planet person who has the most power. If you are the inner planet person and feel you have more power it is due to other relational dynamics in the synastry/composite.

You asked about Pluto and one of my ex-boyfriends demonstrates this dynamic perfectly, since there were no other dynamics to make me interested in him. I was introduced to him by a relative, and he started attending my astronumerology classes, and shooting some instructional videos I wanted to make (before we started dating). He didn't reveal his feelings for about a month when all of this was happening. Then he found the courage to ask me out, and I said I would be busy at the time. But he persisted in giving me a choice of various other times to get lunch or dinner, and I accepted it more out of a thanks for all the work he did on my videos. I was never romantically attracted to him, and more appreciated him as a friend. I continued to go out with him for about 3 months to give him a chance but romantic feelings never developed towards him. In contrast, he was getting more and more invested in me, even bringing up marriage.

His Venus made an exact square to my Pluto, his Sun squared my Pluto by 2 degrees, and his Mercury squared my Pluto by 6 degrees. His Saturn made an exact semisextile to my Pluto. His moon made an exact square to my Pluto. I should mention that his Saturn, Venus and Sun also made a semisextile to my Neptune (Venus and Saturn exact, Sun by 2 degrees), and his Moon made an exact quincunx to my Neptune. He was just 1 year older to me so his outer planets were close to mine (Uranus-Pluto), my inner planets were not making any significant aspects to his Neptune or Pluto. Curiously, my Venus made a 7 degree opposition to his Saturn which would normally make it hard to show affection, but he was excessively affectionate towards me (probably due to all of that Pluto). I felt nothing kissing him. I held all the power in the relationship since I was not at all romantically interested but he was very much, he would do anything I asked him to. Possibly because my Jupiter made a 1 degree conjunction to his second house cusp, by his own choice he spent a lot of money taking me out and buying me things. I would offer to pay sometimes, but he never allowed it.

I could also tell he was seeing an unrealistic picture of me, and had projected many of his ideals of what he wanted me to be without understanding my personality, values, or goals. He did not ask questions to get to know me, he thought I was beautiful and sophisticated, (those were always the comments he made) and I could tell he believed it would look good to others if he married me.

His Uranus made an exact opposition to my Sun, and made a conjunction to my Moon-Saturn conjunction by 3-4 degrees, his Mars made a 1 degree semisextile to my Uranus. In the composite, Uranus made 5 tight aspects to planets less than 3 degrees each and three of them being exact, and it was in the 7th house. Natally, he had Uranus conjunct the MC by 1 degree. Characteristic of Uranus we broke up very abruptly and unexpectedly. Our relationship made little emotional impact on me, and I don't know how he felt (prime reason was due to excessive interference by his mother, who held an abnormal amount of control over him).

In the composite was a tight Venus-Neptune square, my Venus was conjunct the ascendant by 2 degrees from the 12th house, Saturn and Uranus were in the 7th house. I felt the Venus-Neptune square as I was disappointed as a grown man he would let his mother dictate his life, especially since he was so authoritative with everyone else. My Venus conjunct the ascendant shows the theme of the relationship was his appreciation of my beauty. Saturn in the 7th house usually restricts the relationship or makes it burdensome in some way. Also in the composite the Sun at 13 degrees Aries and Moon at 11 degrees Libra made a grand cross with my Mercury-Mars conjunction at 13 Cancer, and Neptune-Vertex at 7 Capricorn; I found it restricted discussions--I wanted to have meaningful discussions but he always wanted to talk about mundane topics. He didn't answer questions about himself in any depth but it could be because he wasn't a self reflective person to begin with. The composite chart ruler Mercury was in the 11th house (and Sun, Venus and North Node were in the 11th) which also makes it hard to sustain a romance, I still feel it would have been good if we just stayed friends.
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Re: Pluto aspects in Synastry - Who Has the Power?

It is also worth mentioning that there were two men who had told me that they think about me all the time, that they can't get me out of their mind, that I was very attractive etc and they both have their Venus conjunct my Pluto, in one case the orb was two degrees, in the other case it was 11 degrees. The one with 2 degrees was significantly more invested in me, and it was clear by his actions that he was obsessive.

However, I was never romantically attracted to either of these men, and all though they impacted me in other ways, it was never obsessive on my end. I would say I was significantly less invested in both relationships and thus held the power.
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