From Lovers Guide to Basic Astrology
http://sbastro.com/LoversGuide/
A personal philosophy about relational astrology.
Astrology is a tool, nothing more, nothing less. Use it wisely and it can help you build something of significance. Use it poorly and it will get you into heaps of trouble.
I am not a fan of the concept of "soul mates". If you are with someone now, whoever that person might be, they are your soulmate of the moment. The relationship may be meant to last a night or a lifetime or an indeterminate amount of time. It may not be meant to develop into an intimate relationship but only meant to be a friendship. Or if of short duration the relationship might be the universe giving you a message about how and what you are doing, relationship wise.
If you are not in a relationship right now, it is because you are in an introspection phase of your life. This period of time might last a night or a lifetime. If you want someone in your life right now you must be open to that possibility. You might think you are ready but the absence of a significant other tells you that you are not. Fear not. The universe has a ready supply of potential mates ready and waiting for you, when you are ready. Remember that personal, intimate relationships are like going to school. You pick the courses you will take and you pick the teacher from whom you will learn. This applies to both parties in the relationship. There are NO totally smooth sailing relationships. How the ship of your relationship weathers the storms of life depends on both of you. For some it might be a pleasure cruise, for others it might be like being up a creek without a paddle.
If you are not a fan of the people who have come into your life in the past remember this one very important rule. The people who came into your life were a reflection of the person you were at that moment. Also remember that the person's life that you entered was a reflection of themselves at that moment. What was true in the past is true in the now and will be in the future. If you want to change the type of people who come into your life you must change some aspect of who you are as a person.
Many people claim to want the stability and security of a long lasting relationship. To have that in your life YOU must know who YOU are and what YOU are all about. Often people who claim to want this kind of relationship really do not. Or as they find out after a period of time the do not want the relationship to continue with that person but are too afraid to terminate the relationship. Do not worry, eventually the other person will pick up on that vibe you are sending out and leave.
I will point out those things that add to the potential for a lasting relationship. And the indicators of the need to change attitudes about the who and what in relationships.
Pay heed to these next statements. An old saying is this: "A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing." Do not go off in crazy directions because you think you know something about astrology after reading these pages and following the guidelines I outline. These are GUIDELINES only. They give you only a very basic amount of information.
David Phoenix