theoddone
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Hi all, I haven't been around this forum for quite a while because I was going through some pesonal stuff.
Synastry is not my strongest point and this actually involves a friend of mine and another woman. She has strong feelings for him, however he kept rejecting her and saying he only saw her as a friend. She accused him of jacking off in public while with another female friend of his and told him that he used women, all while she's been clingy and crying everytime he rejects her. The last comment about him using women struck a nerve with him and drove him into a deep depression and caused suicidal thoughts. The two things this woman accused him of? Neither are true. I've spent the last two weeks trying to help him through the depression and make sure he didn't kill himself. And now all of a sudden, he realizes he's in love with this woman. It strikes me as odd because of how toxic I've seen her act. And he says it's all his fault that she acted that way. He is not responsible for her behavior or actions. Something is just not right because his behavior is way out of character for him and he was honestly happier before she came along and wedged her way into our circle of friends. To top it off, she's married and from a conversation I had with her, what she has with her husband works for them. They're married but separate and she didn't indicate it wasn't going end anytime soon.
I ran the synastry chart between them (I managed to get accurate information from both of them) and noticed he has a 7th house Pluto and she has Scorpio DSC, plus his Sun falls into her 8th house. She has an Aquarius stellium that also falls into his 12th house. I'm seeing a toxic relationship (8th house and 7th house Plutonian themes with both of them) that is making him not see it for what it is (12th house synastry). With her Saturn squaring his Venus, her Moon squaring her Saturn, and his Moon opposing her Saturn, I really think he's going to end up trapped in a never ending toxic cycle if he decides to try a pursue a relationship with her.
It would be nice if someone could double check that for me and offer additional insights because I really care about my friend and I don't want to see him getting hurt in the long run.
Synastry is not my strongest point and this actually involves a friend of mine and another woman. She has strong feelings for him, however he kept rejecting her and saying he only saw her as a friend. She accused him of jacking off in public while with another female friend of his and told him that he used women, all while she's been clingy and crying everytime he rejects her. The last comment about him using women struck a nerve with him and drove him into a deep depression and caused suicidal thoughts. The two things this woman accused him of? Neither are true. I've spent the last two weeks trying to help him through the depression and make sure he didn't kill himself. And now all of a sudden, he realizes he's in love with this woman. It strikes me as odd because of how toxic I've seen her act. And he says it's all his fault that she acted that way. He is not responsible for her behavior or actions. Something is just not right because his behavior is way out of character for him and he was honestly happier before she came along and wedged her way into our circle of friends. To top it off, she's married and from a conversation I had with her, what she has with her husband works for them. They're married but separate and she didn't indicate it wasn't going end anytime soon.
I ran the synastry chart between them (I managed to get accurate information from both of them) and noticed he has a 7th house Pluto and she has Scorpio DSC, plus his Sun falls into her 8th house. She has an Aquarius stellium that also falls into his 12th house. I'm seeing a toxic relationship (8th house and 7th house Plutonian themes with both of them) that is making him not see it for what it is (12th house synastry). With her Saturn squaring his Venus, her Moon squaring her Saturn, and his Moon opposing her Saturn, I really think he's going to end up trapped in a never ending toxic cycle if he decides to try a pursue a relationship with her.
It would be nice if someone could double check that for me and offer additional insights because I really care about my friend and I don't want to see him getting hurt in the long run.