Hey
There are actually a lot of ways how to count elements and there is no consensus on what is the right one. I personally do not like counting in any exact way... if I look at your chart, clearly, you have a conscious and instinctive preference for water, but your venus & mars are earth & cusp houses & aspecting luminaries, so defintely earth is not a problem here at all (by the way, you yourself in your message ask about control, hohoho, capricorn mars in 10th, sextiling your sun, being sextiled by taurus saturn! No, earth is definitely not a problem), then fire, jupiter in fire sign aspecting sun is maybe some aid if you do not have much fire elsewhere, even mars in 10th aspecting sun positively is maybe a tiny bit of something... generally speaking, you have covered the passive and feminine side (water & earth) but active & masculine lacks, you have something in fire, that is ideas but the manifested active lacks almost completely, you have also aquarius 12th house and IC in gem, libra 8th... I would dare to guess this is an inherited problem from your family, like, a problem with air (mental, manifested masculine) not being expressed in a healthy way, not being able to take things from distance while still being present (see from distance is not the same as running away from certain things, it is more like, be the bigger person, the one that is aware, the one that not runs away from emotion to mind, but acknowledges them both, aquarius poors th water on the ground to make things grow, you know the star card in tarot represents hope) ... Again, maybe what you need is not actually bigger control (who told you you need that?), or maybe, what is control? Denial, supress, tame? Or being able to actually let things happen while still standing? Control over what? You see, emotions are maybe sometimes seen as a weakness, as something to be ashamed of, but are they? You have your north node in leo & 5th house & moon in the 5th so there is a need for you to let things happen, to be the individual that you are, to find your own fire... depression is a sort of lack of motivation, alienation from others & yourself... so you know what, if you want to "control" something you have to accept it first uncondiotionally, that's the only way you can own it. You have asc in pisces & cancer moon so I know you feel for others (& aquarius 11th house south node) but this time it is about your passion and desire. In the end, scorpio is what you are, and that used to be a sign ruled by mars, but it's a different fire, it burns inside you know... stuff like that