VenusInScorp
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Hi All,
Met him on a recent international group trip. My first impression was he was kind, gentle, reserved, aloof and appeared quite shy. There were also moments when he seemed arrogant, dismissive and curt with me but, I decided not to personalize it. I guess after warming up to me a bit he began doing things like asking me the same question over and over again, and one day he tried to inquire about my preference in men. Still and all, he barely talked to me until the end of the trip when he invited me to sit with him on the night of our last group dinner. I was so shocked and flustered that I almost tripped over my own feet as I said "no thanks" and simultaneously scurried away to another table with my friends. Later before dinner was over, he approached my table and made it known he wanted to keep in touch when we returned to the states. My mouth fell open. When we returned home, he sent me a FB friend request and then he started copying alot of the things that I would do as it related to places that I would visit, ideas and thoughts about general life topics, etc., but all the while he still remained slightly distant...
Well, I eventually blocked him from FB because he never actually talked to me and intuitively I felt he was low key assessing me and my life to see what I was all about. Needless to say, a few days later, he emailed me to invite me to his annual X-mas party. At the time that he invited me to the function I had to decline due to a previous engagement, and he ended the invite with the sentiments of hoping to see me again. Again, I was shocked.
Just last week we were in contact again regarding a project (he never asked about me blocking him on FB, btw) via email and his replies kept coming in less than five minutes after mine and he kept insisting that we talk via phone (we are setting up an event) and he asked me over and over again -- "when can you talk?" "What about Monday?" "Does Monday work for you?" "I can even talk Tuesday if Monday doesn't work?" A few months ago when we last talked over the phone he seemed annoyed that I was in a noisy place (as he mumbled, "oh, you're in a crowded environment") and I felt in my gut that he was stalling because he wanted to say something else at the end of the conversation but didn't feel comfortable because of all of the distraction around me.
I think he is a great guy as he's successful, handsome, stable, well cultured and traveled, intelligent, kind, fun, interesting. At first he was nowhere on my radar but my thoughts about him have changed a bit since I first met him but I want to be sure I'm not off the mark here?
If something is there I will continue to just go slow with him so that I can find out his character fully for myself. When he kept asking me last week if we could talk, I told him we could talk after the weekend. I don't want to go too fast with anything as I want to be sure of his true intentions?
Do you think I should continue talking with him? If the project goes through, it will entail taking another trip together but I'm not sure.
Met him on a recent international group trip. My first impression was he was kind, gentle, reserved, aloof and appeared quite shy. There were also moments when he seemed arrogant, dismissive and curt with me but, I decided not to personalize it. I guess after warming up to me a bit he began doing things like asking me the same question over and over again, and one day he tried to inquire about my preference in men. Still and all, he barely talked to me until the end of the trip when he invited me to sit with him on the night of our last group dinner. I was so shocked and flustered that I almost tripped over my own feet as I said "no thanks" and simultaneously scurried away to another table with my friends. Later before dinner was over, he approached my table and made it known he wanted to keep in touch when we returned to the states. My mouth fell open. When we returned home, he sent me a FB friend request and then he started copying alot of the things that I would do as it related to places that I would visit, ideas and thoughts about general life topics, etc., but all the while he still remained slightly distant...
Well, I eventually blocked him from FB because he never actually talked to me and intuitively I felt he was low key assessing me and my life to see what I was all about. Needless to say, a few days later, he emailed me to invite me to his annual X-mas party. At the time that he invited me to the function I had to decline due to a previous engagement, and he ended the invite with the sentiments of hoping to see me again. Again, I was shocked.
Just last week we were in contact again regarding a project (he never asked about me blocking him on FB, btw) via email and his replies kept coming in less than five minutes after mine and he kept insisting that we talk via phone (we are setting up an event) and he asked me over and over again -- "when can you talk?" "What about Monday?" "Does Monday work for you?" "I can even talk Tuesday if Monday doesn't work?" A few months ago when we last talked over the phone he seemed annoyed that I was in a noisy place (as he mumbled, "oh, you're in a crowded environment") and I felt in my gut that he was stalling because he wanted to say something else at the end of the conversation but didn't feel comfortable because of all of the distraction around me.
I think he is a great guy as he's successful, handsome, stable, well cultured and traveled, intelligent, kind, fun, interesting. At first he was nowhere on my radar but my thoughts about him have changed a bit since I first met him but I want to be sure I'm not off the mark here?
If something is there I will continue to just go slow with him so that I can find out his character fully for myself. When he kept asking me last week if we could talk, I told him we could talk after the weekend. I don't want to go too fast with anything as I want to be sure of his true intentions?
Do you think I should continue talking with him? If the project goes through, it will entail taking another trip together but I'm not sure.