soratothamax
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As was posted before, I had an issue with my mother, and moved out permanently. I am much happier and much more confident than I was living with her. My health is restoring back to normal. I even took the job advice from everyone.
My only issue is this lingering fear of my mother. Again, she's always been of the violent sort. She didn't take my move well, and tried everything to hurt me so I could feel guilty and so I could suffer, though she had to accept it. I keep feeling guilty and ashamed for leaving her alone. But the relationship was too abusive for me. I not only felt controlled but I was where she directed her anger and frustrations.
When I'm away from her I feel confident, but when I'm in the same room with her I feel myself getting sick and losing confidence all over again. I always feel like I'm going to fail, that she's going to criticize me. I'm too sensitive to her opinions and I let them control me because I don't want to be a bad daughter. I want to treat her well.
A family reunion is coming up and I have to be in the same room. I'm afraid of confrontation, her critical eyes, and lingering feelings of guilt on my side.
I'm wondering where this fear is coming from, and whether I made the right choice. Maybe I'm too judgmental and have a hard time accepting differences? What is it with our relationship that I can't get along with, and that I have a hard time living with?
My only issue is this lingering fear of my mother. Again, she's always been of the violent sort. She didn't take my move well, and tried everything to hurt me so I could feel guilty and so I could suffer, though she had to accept it. I keep feeling guilty and ashamed for leaving her alone. But the relationship was too abusive for me. I not only felt controlled but I was where she directed her anger and frustrations.
When I'm away from her I feel confident, but when I'm in the same room with her I feel myself getting sick and losing confidence all over again. I always feel like I'm going to fail, that she's going to criticize me. I'm too sensitive to her opinions and I let them control me because I don't want to be a bad daughter. I want to treat her well.
A family reunion is coming up and I have to be in the same room. I'm afraid of confrontation, her critical eyes, and lingering feelings of guilt on my side.
I'm wondering where this fear is coming from, and whether I made the right choice. Maybe I'm too judgmental and have a hard time accepting differences? What is it with our relationship that I can't get along with, and that I have a hard time living with?
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