To answer your first query, we use quotes because we are back together and 'I' is preferable to 'we' as it appears more familiar, the process of 'unification' is an ongoing one and may result in 'I' and, 'me and 'mine' no longer being required, it is a personal thing that serves to remind us of our union. It is possible that eventually we will no longer need to be reminded and we can use terms such as 'I' and 'Me without the quotes freely and not lose ourselves.
As far as your statement goes, you do not know us, you only know of your life and your experiences, you are not fit to pass judgement on any save yourself.
Who is "us"?
I accept your statement about judgement. However, you ARE in physical reality, whether or not you are an 'I' or a 'we'. This is a fact and not a judgement. And asking questions is only an attempt to better understand where you are coming from.
But - if it is a personal thing, why do you broadcast it to the general public, rather than keeping it personal? Please accept that if you are going to broadcast personal things to the public, you are going to warrant attention to them. Perhaps others don't openly ask, but they're definitely asking in their minds.
If you still have a personality, as entailed by the use of the word "personal", then wouldn't there not be any qualms with using the word "I" or "we"?
And if you feel these words should not be used to describe yourself, why not just omit them from your written communication all together?
In the past, I taught myself to write without those words, feeling that too much emphasis on those words was egotistical. It was good practice, as it stretched the mind, and it wasn't necessarily difficult. I have since come to terms with words such as "I".
Also, if you are trying to transcend terms like "I", then why do you place such a strong emphasis upon them?
And if you feel that "us" is the way you want to identify yourself or
selves to the public, don't you think that it would be a good idea to be prepared for questioning and even possible stigmatization for doing so? You do realize that you are readily inviting questioning, don't you?
I am not trying to stigmatize you, but other people may. If you are perceiving these questions as stigmatizations, than that is your choice. I'm speaking with honesty and asking for it in return. I'd like to understand where you, us, or whatever you want to call yourself are coming from and why. Meanwhile, I will maintain my position that you, me, and everybody else on this forum share one thing in common. We are all members of the physical reality, whether we like it or not.