Hi rahu,
Thank you for the time and thought that went into your response. It's very interesting. I think a lot of it does apply. It's a confusing relationship because what is said does not always match actions, for both of us. I would say that we aspire to be everything for each other, but both of us fail. We are both very devoted to our careers, and we respect and understand each other in that way. Recently we have gotten closer emotionally (September), but I'm not sure that it means we won't break up.
He is very dominating, and I do find it sexy, but I pull away a lot because maybe the lack of emotional bond (I should'nt really say we lack an emotional bond, rather that the bond we have is missing an element of trust, which is pretty crucial emotionally) or perhaps because even though I am pretty naturally submissive romantically, I'm a boss in other facets of life so the disconnect is sometimes a little flavorless for me. It's very very compelling though, like you wrote. Kind of other-worldly, so perhaps it just wont fit into real life. I don't see a break up happening now, but he may be moving away soon, and I won't be following. Hate to think of that, but I'm sure the right thing will happen, what's right for both of us.
Thanks again.