TaoAgent22
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So I've come to feel like... beyond any doubt I can see how it plays out where Aries can get pretty badly maladaptive if it is not given decent control, second guessed, etc, on a consistent basis.
I can see out of myself, that when I know the best way to do something and ppl don't have any ideas themselves yet decide to try to slow you down anyways, I get very "GTFO of my way, please, thank you" and get really laser-minded about something, and just want control, for god's sake control. That's the state I can get really caught up in when I'm trying to do the right thing, and the vanilla ppl I feel "stuck" or "chained" to (like parents and teachers in my youth; machiavellian and undermining friends in young adulthood; petty fools at work, etc) try to shut you down.
I totally have come to realize that it's all because I was conditioned to be a "good team player" and to "never talk back" something close to relentlessly when I was growing up, even though I am an Aries Rising, and actually am/was supposed to blaze my own path and stop giving flying fux about ppl's inability to keep up. It's led to being a medium-young adult now with a reaaallllly short tolerance for when the "back of the class" idiots in my environment decide to slow down my or my allies' rhythm. There's a Stephen King quote from the Gunslinger that explains my feeling on it: "...worry spread, like a disease." I have an acute sense and intolerance for that kind of thing, the way totally balls/ovary-less ppl sometimes try to trick you into being a wuss so that, I dunno, they don't have to feel like it's only them being a wuss actually. And I finally figured out why (my Aries nature/behavior was always being "trimmed" by the idiots with control). Succumbing to this can really mess an Aries up and reduce their confidence and otherwise natural leading ability and potential. I'm always "mopping up" after these maladaptations, over-explaining myself, second-guessing my instincts, etc. I'm pretty resentful about it.
Just wanted to share that pocket grenade of self-realization about Aries in a place where someone may relate, even save someone some trouble in a way. If you have a big identity as an Aries, I'd say you've got no choice but to learn to like ignoring idiots. Even if that's, like, the only company you have growing up! I know if I had an Aries or Aries Rising or Aries Moon or Aries MC or similar kid, I would absolutely let them have their way when their intentions are good, as much as is lovingly possible. Conditioning that out of them is cruel and leads to headcases like yours truly
I would say that unless an Aries-identified person has some kind of malevolant energy about them, let them the hell go off on their own thing! They'll be fine. They either know what they're doing, or soon will.
Thanx for reading!
-Your friendly neighborhood Aries Asc
I can see out of myself, that when I know the best way to do something and ppl don't have any ideas themselves yet decide to try to slow you down anyways, I get very "GTFO of my way, please, thank you" and get really laser-minded about something, and just want control, for god's sake control. That's the state I can get really caught up in when I'm trying to do the right thing, and the vanilla ppl I feel "stuck" or "chained" to (like parents and teachers in my youth; machiavellian and undermining friends in young adulthood; petty fools at work, etc) try to shut you down.
I totally have come to realize that it's all because I was conditioned to be a "good team player" and to "never talk back" something close to relentlessly when I was growing up, even though I am an Aries Rising, and actually am/was supposed to blaze my own path and stop giving flying fux about ppl's inability to keep up. It's led to being a medium-young adult now with a reaaallllly short tolerance for when the "back of the class" idiots in my environment decide to slow down my or my allies' rhythm. There's a Stephen King quote from the Gunslinger that explains my feeling on it: "...worry spread, like a disease." I have an acute sense and intolerance for that kind of thing, the way totally balls/ovary-less ppl sometimes try to trick you into being a wuss so that, I dunno, they don't have to feel like it's only them being a wuss actually. And I finally figured out why (my Aries nature/behavior was always being "trimmed" by the idiots with control). Succumbing to this can really mess an Aries up and reduce their confidence and otherwise natural leading ability and potential. I'm always "mopping up" after these maladaptations, over-explaining myself, second-guessing my instincts, etc. I'm pretty resentful about it.
Just wanted to share that pocket grenade of self-realization about Aries in a place where someone may relate, even save someone some trouble in a way. If you have a big identity as an Aries, I'd say you've got no choice but to learn to like ignoring idiots. Even if that's, like, the only company you have growing up! I know if I had an Aries or Aries Rising or Aries Moon or Aries MC or similar kid, I would absolutely let them have their way when their intentions are good, as much as is lovingly possible. Conditioning that out of them is cruel and leads to headcases like yours truly
I would say that unless an Aries-identified person has some kind of malevolant energy about them, let them the hell go off on their own thing! They'll be fine. They either know what they're doing, or soon will.
Thanx for reading!
-Your friendly neighborhood Aries Asc
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SOMETIMES they are being impulsive, hasty and need someone to intervene....
