Hi all. So I am new to this community and I have been reading threads mostly, not posting much. I could really use some help from you guys at the moment.
I met this guy early last year, visiting a city for a job interview. During our first encounter, I felt like I met him before and he stayed somewhere in the back of my mind until we met again in June. I got the job and moved to his city in the meantime. Second encounter was inevitable - friends in common. When it happened, we both just fell for it. AND it was so intense, as nothing in my life - and i've been crazy and, more importantly, happily in love before. We spent a couple of weeks together, then we spent 3 months apart because he was working abroad. I have a history of longdistancing and just 6 months ago I'd sworn never to engage in it again. However... I did, short-term. Come October, we are reunited. And everything seems perfect, we are so similar, understand each other deeply without even talking, EVERYTHING is amazing...that's really a first one for me, at least on this level.
Now, the problem. He seems to have a lot of anger in him and it seems to me it's always directed to the woman he is with. he grew up in a kind of problematic family, while I was never exposed that kind of aggressive fighting. Also, he is very insecure about me loving him back or wanting him back - which I find completely illogical, since he's the 'womanizing' type, good looking and always attracting women's attention wherever we go. So when I read our composite from astro.com for the first time, I assumed that all the warnings about limiting freedoms etc, implied the dangers of me trying to control him. 6 months into the relationship, I feel the opposite. There's possessiveness, jealousy and already mentioned insecurtiy. I know myself quite well and these things can only drive me away faster. On top of that, the aggression he exposes when we fight (usually his doing) - completely stuns me. Like I am in front of another man in a matter of miliseconds.
SO....Is there anything in our individual natals or the composite attached, that can help in deciding how to tackle this mess? I want to be with the guy, but I know I would suffer a lot long-term if nothing changes. What can I do? IS THERE something I can do? Is it ME or women in general? Can he change? ...
Really, any input would be useful, because just thinking about this based on my own observations just leads me into a wall of questions and doubts.
Many thanks
PS. Mine is the aries' chart, he's libra.
I met this guy early last year, visiting a city for a job interview. During our first encounter, I felt like I met him before and he stayed somewhere in the back of my mind until we met again in June. I got the job and moved to his city in the meantime. Second encounter was inevitable - friends in common. When it happened, we both just fell for it. AND it was so intense, as nothing in my life - and i've been crazy and, more importantly, happily in love before. We spent a couple of weeks together, then we spent 3 months apart because he was working abroad. I have a history of longdistancing and just 6 months ago I'd sworn never to engage in it again. However... I did, short-term. Come October, we are reunited. And everything seems perfect, we are so similar, understand each other deeply without even talking, EVERYTHING is amazing...that's really a first one for me, at least on this level.
Now, the problem. He seems to have a lot of anger in him and it seems to me it's always directed to the woman he is with. he grew up in a kind of problematic family, while I was never exposed that kind of aggressive fighting. Also, he is very insecure about me loving him back or wanting him back - which I find completely illogical, since he's the 'womanizing' type, good looking and always attracting women's attention wherever we go. So when I read our composite from astro.com for the first time, I assumed that all the warnings about limiting freedoms etc, implied the dangers of me trying to control him. 6 months into the relationship, I feel the opposite. There's possessiveness, jealousy and already mentioned insecurtiy. I know myself quite well and these things can only drive me away faster. On top of that, the aggression he exposes when we fight (usually his doing) - completely stuns me. Like I am in front of another man in a matter of miliseconds.
SO....Is there anything in our individual natals or the composite attached, that can help in deciding how to tackle this mess? I want to be with the guy, but I know I would suffer a lot long-term if nothing changes. What can I do? IS THERE something I can do? Is it ME or women in general? Can he change? ...
Really, any input would be useful, because just thinking about this based on my own observations just leads me into a wall of questions and doubts.
Many thanks
PS. Mine is the aries' chart, he's libra.
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