Hi,
I too have a very childlike approach most of the times, so I'd much rather not repeat it here to all you grown-ups.
However, from reading, etc I can share some 'tips and tricks' that can actually be applied, and may even help. For instance:
-if you feel you have the 'burnt crust' of the cake, whilst others are enjoying the 'icing on the cake': say this to yourself: it could have been a lot worse.
-if you are really mad at someone for whatever reason and are ready to yell at them: step back (literally), find a window possibly you can gaze out of, and count until 20. Anger is your worst enemy, justified or unjustified. Most of the times, after you have managed to count 20, your mind will start working again
-those moments of 'seeming' failures, unhappiness, emptiness, pessimism, and esp fear have this thing about them. Not sure, if you have ever noticed it, but there is almost a sense of security in fear. How? Fear (resulting out of pessimism, etc) is a very strong emotion, and takes the form of a capsule and surrounds one. When we fear something/someone/a situation, the emotion contrary to that is only: things can get better. Hence, an expectation or hope. To expect or to hope means the ultimate result (whatever that might be) is not yet there. Fear indirectly sends a message of you can keep hoping. It is a vicious circle, but fear 'keeps us busy', even secure. But unhealthily. Because reality can sometimes be different from expectation. And, what the mind needs most is to be involved in something, even if it is: fear.
When the above happens, the best is to follow Bina's advice, and do anything that will invoke a positive emotion within your-self. The aim is simple: to divert the mind, keeping it involved, but not in fear. Remember, the mind is what controls us ultimately. If the mind is fed with something positive, and it can only imbibe one thing at a time, it will change your personality. No matter how old or young you are.
- If there is a person that 'you feel' is all out to harm you, or you are insecure of, utopic as it may sound, look at their strengths. Find at least 3 positive points about them, and say these out to yourself at least 3 times. Yes, that number 3 is a very powerful and positive number. You will see how that negative emotion will leave you
And, a sure-shot remedy for every uneasy emotion is
yoga. If you like and can consistently do even 30 mins of yoga everyday (no matter what time of the day), it helps tremendously, within a matter of 8-10 weeks, to change one's outlook and become more positively relaxed, way more relaxed.
Yoga is real, silent healing for the '3' keys of being alive: the body, the mind, and the soul. Yoga can mean a re-birth/ a more healthy you in every way. And, the best plus most practical thing about yoga is that, except for a mat and some space for yourself, you need nothing. Not even a pair of walking shoes, or sunny weather (less excuses for not doing it
). No costs involved. Just you, yourself, and a schedule.
AQ7