jag
Well-known member
hi....
as some of you know this has been driving me just about nuts. so i've patiently waited for some time to pass and decided to see if horary could help once again.
i asked a horary alittle over three months ago and it was suggested i wait and ask again. i just sent my ex a letter asking him to let me know if he really wanted me to be involved romantically with someone i had been getting to know (we've recently decided to be just friends though)--before this he had no definites that i was going to be in a romantic relationship or would simply be just pining over him. this was in his face and telling him it is a real happening should you not wake up and step up to the plate and tell me that you care about me and want to be with me. see he's always taken for granted i'd be there and i have been. i asked him to contact me within two weeks. it would have been easy for him to send back a one sentence email reply or to my home address to say "yes you should pursue the relationship" and also add "don't contact me anymore" which he is famous for saying when he doesn't want me to contact him but he has never said that throughout the entire "breakup"--very interesting and telling. over two weeks and nothing. i have known him for 6 years and his reponse does not mean he wants me to necessarily see another romantic partner, just the opposite... his no response could mean he doesn't want me to do that because he still really wants to be with me but is having mid life crisis and is spinning his own wheels--he has done this in the past with the avoidance not meaning disinterest. so originally i got scared and then thought about his past actions and realized he's not necessarily telling you you have his blessing--he sees it as a stalemate he says nothing, i do nothing. i know it makes no logical sense but sometimes there is no rhyme or reason besides his limited reasoning and he has no practical or common sense at all, everything's logical so the if i don't do this, then she won't do that theory of his. i don't know if this chart shows what i feel inside or not. it doesn't appear to be telling me anything!
date: march 7, 2007
time: 7:23 am.
place bradford, massachusetts (71w05, 42n46)
asc: 13 ari 37
i'm signified by mars and the moon and he's signified by venus. his venus is in my first house so i'm on his mind but does it signify anything else in the chart? part of fortune is in his house so i'm assuming that means this is still leaning towards him and not somene else. there are no aspects between any of the planets.
mars is in the 11th house of friends and we were best of friends. in my natal chart and in my heart i have always known and would never settle for anyone in a romantic relationship who wasn't my best friend. so this fits him too. and where it's me represented by mars i'm assuming it's echoing the my seeing us friends and not that he wants us to be just friends because it would be venus in the 11th, correct?
the moon aspects quite a bit of things but only two of the planets. it trines mars and then opposes venus (which it were the other way around!) but it's last aspect is positive with it sextile pluto.
find venus in applying aspect to jupiter positive and would think reconiliation would take place in three weeks, three months if he wanted it???? venus applies to jupiter 3:20.
the only other thing i found interesting or that would say he wanted to be with me was partners arabic part is 12 lib 18 which is conjunct the 7th house which represents him. one other interesting thing that points to "him" is that marriage asteroid juno is in the 7th house and is conjunct part of fortune. i'm taking this to be the meat of the chart but could be beginners luck totally wrong.... :-( and the fact venus is in the first so it connects me personally to him...
so even though there isn't much here, i'd still say that he cautiously wants us to be together and doesn't in his heart want me to find another romantic interest. he wants it but maybe the chart is telling me he doesn't know how to go about reconciliation or he still needs more time to "fix his stuff" or maybe that he is in no position to ask me to not find another romantic interest. this time waiting is driving me crazy but i've thought long and hard and he's worth the aggravation if we can finally be harmonious and all gut instincts (which i've been told lately to start following instead of ignoring) is that things aren't over by a long shot they are just paused and confused on his end and i'm lost as to where he stands. i'm working on formulating one more horary question that might help unstall this and get final resolution and we would have that if he would just give me an answer; this was a perfect opportunity for him to bow out and say hey yeah i'm happy you have found someone you are attracted to, go for it! but he didn't and the way he didn't do it is very telling and eye opening. but what to do next.... just sit and wait... everyone ever in my position knows how this is easier said than done. and i know i can't play half foot in relationships games with people; it's cruel and unfair.
if anyone can help with whether i've figured anything out in this chart objectively, i'd appreciate the look and analysis of this horary question/chart. thanks to anyone ahead of time who is willing to take the time to respond... i appreciate it!
smiles
jag
as some of you know this has been driving me just about nuts. so i've patiently waited for some time to pass and decided to see if horary could help once again.
i asked a horary alittle over three months ago and it was suggested i wait and ask again. i just sent my ex a letter asking him to let me know if he really wanted me to be involved romantically with someone i had been getting to know (we've recently decided to be just friends though)--before this he had no definites that i was going to be in a romantic relationship or would simply be just pining over him. this was in his face and telling him it is a real happening should you not wake up and step up to the plate and tell me that you care about me and want to be with me. see he's always taken for granted i'd be there and i have been. i asked him to contact me within two weeks. it would have been easy for him to send back a one sentence email reply or to my home address to say "yes you should pursue the relationship" and also add "don't contact me anymore" which he is famous for saying when he doesn't want me to contact him but he has never said that throughout the entire "breakup"--very interesting and telling. over two weeks and nothing. i have known him for 6 years and his reponse does not mean he wants me to necessarily see another romantic partner, just the opposite... his no response could mean he doesn't want me to do that because he still really wants to be with me but is having mid life crisis and is spinning his own wheels--he has done this in the past with the avoidance not meaning disinterest. so originally i got scared and then thought about his past actions and realized he's not necessarily telling you you have his blessing--he sees it as a stalemate he says nothing, i do nothing. i know it makes no logical sense but sometimes there is no rhyme or reason besides his limited reasoning and he has no practical or common sense at all, everything's logical so the if i don't do this, then she won't do that theory of his. i don't know if this chart shows what i feel inside or not. it doesn't appear to be telling me anything!
date: march 7, 2007
time: 7:23 am.
place bradford, massachusetts (71w05, 42n46)
asc: 13 ari 37
i'm signified by mars and the moon and he's signified by venus. his venus is in my first house so i'm on his mind but does it signify anything else in the chart? part of fortune is in his house so i'm assuming that means this is still leaning towards him and not somene else. there are no aspects between any of the planets.
mars is in the 11th house of friends and we were best of friends. in my natal chart and in my heart i have always known and would never settle for anyone in a romantic relationship who wasn't my best friend. so this fits him too. and where it's me represented by mars i'm assuming it's echoing the my seeing us friends and not that he wants us to be just friends because it would be venus in the 11th, correct?
the moon aspects quite a bit of things but only two of the planets. it trines mars and then opposes venus (which it were the other way around!) but it's last aspect is positive with it sextile pluto.
find venus in applying aspect to jupiter positive and would think reconiliation would take place in three weeks, three months if he wanted it???? venus applies to jupiter 3:20.
the only other thing i found interesting or that would say he wanted to be with me was partners arabic part is 12 lib 18 which is conjunct the 7th house which represents him. one other interesting thing that points to "him" is that marriage asteroid juno is in the 7th house and is conjunct part of fortune. i'm taking this to be the meat of the chart but could be beginners luck totally wrong.... :-( and the fact venus is in the first so it connects me personally to him...
so even though there isn't much here, i'd still say that he cautiously wants us to be together and doesn't in his heart want me to find another romantic interest. he wants it but maybe the chart is telling me he doesn't know how to go about reconciliation or he still needs more time to "fix his stuff" or maybe that he is in no position to ask me to not find another romantic interest. this time waiting is driving me crazy but i've thought long and hard and he's worth the aggravation if we can finally be harmonious and all gut instincts (which i've been told lately to start following instead of ignoring) is that things aren't over by a long shot they are just paused and confused on his end and i'm lost as to where he stands. i'm working on formulating one more horary question that might help unstall this and get final resolution and we would have that if he would just give me an answer; this was a perfect opportunity for him to bow out and say hey yeah i'm happy you have found someone you are attracted to, go for it! but he didn't and the way he didn't do it is very telling and eye opening. but what to do next.... just sit and wait... everyone ever in my position knows how this is easier said than done. and i know i can't play half foot in relationships games with people; it's cruel and unfair.
if anyone can help with whether i've figured anything out in this chart objectively, i'd appreciate the look and analysis of this horary question/chart. thanks to anyone ahead of time who is willing to take the time to respond... i appreciate it!
smiles
jag