Hiya Gang!
Ok… This board is LITERALLY my counselor… Here is where I get the nitty gritty about me…. good or bad… I've been dreading asking this question because… I partly am afraid of the answer. So here goes…
My relationship with my current boyfriend (we use fiancé as well even though he is still paying on the ring and hasn't OFFICIALLY popped the question) didn't start off with the odds in our favor to say the least. Our composite chart has saturn AND pluto in the 5th house. Since we have a child, I know that it didn't' affect our ability to conceive, however, I think it played out in a manner of… "No superficial bullish*t that you two had with everyone else… IF you want this to work you HAVE to be REAL (Saturn) because the old ways of relating to people are no longer going to work (Pluto)… And once you do change it will be for better and for good… And that's pretty much been our experience… We have had terrible arguments while learning each other and have BOTH grown tremendously and made changes.
Now… He's been 'married' (more to please mom) before and I have not. I had never really wanted to be married… something about the 'loss of control/loss of me' fear I guess… And I know there is a commitment issue within me somewhere… Not that I want to be unfaithful.. But I'm just scared of TOTALLY losing control and 'having the rug pulled from under me'. I guess I thought that I would meet someone and like magic… I would WANT to just give in… But I feel that ultimately it's a decision I'm going to make. He's considering the air force, so the talk of marriage has become everyday conversation instead of the silence that I would previously give the topic. The more we're together…the more I 'can see' our future (air force-security) the more I'm OK with making the commitment… I have had a problem leaving when it was time and "settling for crumbs" (jupiter retrograde in 8th") so i guess I don't want to feel 'trapped' in a relationship as I had before. I'm also continuing to 'battle' inner demons of My parent's relationship, previous relationships, and my relationship with my dad. I've made great progress as I'm learning to identify ME and how MY relationship should be… Not comparing it to others.
(Bear with me) So if all goes accordingly, he will enlist next year and we will marry before… causing us to move and relocate and begin a new life. I will no longer have the COMFORT IN KNOWLEDGE mommy and daddy 15 minutes away… Instead… it would now just be me and my husband and family. I know I still have work on myself to do… and I'm very open and communicative to him about things that I've been through and we've had to learn patience with each other. Being a Taurus, change doesn't come easy… nor with him LEO… but I'm making them.
I asked the question will our marriage be successful because it's not just he and I to consider, there are also the lives of 3 children at stake here as well.
So…this is the first I've tried to interpret a relationship chart… and I haven't got a clue as to how the planets apply here… He is ruled by mercury and mercury is in the first with venus… so that's a good thing? Moon in scorpio in 11th… Suggesting my fears? loss of control? representing military? Mars in second in aquarius representing money earned thru 11th house activities organization?
Any help… advice would be appreciated… we're not perfect… but we're trying… I think.
Ok… This board is LITERALLY my counselor… Here is where I get the nitty gritty about me…. good or bad… I've been dreading asking this question because… I partly am afraid of the answer. So here goes…
My relationship with my current boyfriend (we use fiancé as well even though he is still paying on the ring and hasn't OFFICIALLY popped the question) didn't start off with the odds in our favor to say the least. Our composite chart has saturn AND pluto in the 5th house. Since we have a child, I know that it didn't' affect our ability to conceive, however, I think it played out in a manner of… "No superficial bullish*t that you two had with everyone else… IF you want this to work you HAVE to be REAL (Saturn) because the old ways of relating to people are no longer going to work (Pluto)… And once you do change it will be for better and for good… And that's pretty much been our experience… We have had terrible arguments while learning each other and have BOTH grown tremendously and made changes.
Now… He's been 'married' (more to please mom) before and I have not. I had never really wanted to be married… something about the 'loss of control/loss of me' fear I guess… And I know there is a commitment issue within me somewhere… Not that I want to be unfaithful.. But I'm just scared of TOTALLY losing control and 'having the rug pulled from under me'. I guess I thought that I would meet someone and like magic… I would WANT to just give in… But I feel that ultimately it's a decision I'm going to make. He's considering the air force, so the talk of marriage has become everyday conversation instead of the silence that I would previously give the topic. The more we're together…the more I 'can see' our future (air force-security) the more I'm OK with making the commitment… I have had a problem leaving when it was time and "settling for crumbs" (jupiter retrograde in 8th") so i guess I don't want to feel 'trapped' in a relationship as I had before. I'm also continuing to 'battle' inner demons of My parent's relationship, previous relationships, and my relationship with my dad. I've made great progress as I'm learning to identify ME and how MY relationship should be… Not comparing it to others.
(Bear with me) So if all goes accordingly, he will enlist next year and we will marry before… causing us to move and relocate and begin a new life. I will no longer have the COMFORT IN KNOWLEDGE mommy and daddy 15 minutes away… Instead… it would now just be me and my husband and family. I know I still have work on myself to do… and I'm very open and communicative to him about things that I've been through and we've had to learn patience with each other. Being a Taurus, change doesn't come easy… nor with him LEO… but I'm making them.
I asked the question will our marriage be successful because it's not just he and I to consider, there are also the lives of 3 children at stake here as well.
So…this is the first I've tried to interpret a relationship chart… and I haven't got a clue as to how the planets apply here… He is ruled by mercury and mercury is in the first with venus… so that's a good thing? Moon in scorpio in 11th… Suggesting my fears? loss of control? representing military? Mars in second in aquarius representing money earned thru 11th house activities organization?
Any help… advice would be appreciated… we're not perfect… but we're trying… I think.
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