Alrescha -
I have a question regarding your research findings -
Do you think it is a given that Narcissistic men hate their mothers?
The "sailor" whom I shared about earlier, always spoke kindly and loving about his mother, but when he spoke with her on the phone, he was always talking trash on the "F*d-up* women he had had in his life. He would discuss explicit sexual encounters that he had with past women and he would say things to her like "you know how women can be..." in very angry tones as well as calling them C's and W's to her. But he never said angry things to or about her. Of course I noticed this stuff right away, and even discussed my perspective about his perspective, with him. His way of handling it was "pedestalizing" me - and saying stuff like "oh, you're different, you're better than that", and so on....and to a dumbstruck heart, that often works as an easy "out" to dissuade any doubts, as well as to manipulate, by discussing the 'quality' or 'specialness' of the narcissist's prey.
Anyway - I am and was grateful to get out of that relation fairly quickly, but still embarrassed that I let those warning flags go unheeded for as long as they did.
His mother appeared to be doting - sending him cookies and sweaters and gifts frequently - but she had divorced his father when he was 12 and all he ever did was talk about the "string of @ssholes" that marched in and out of her life after that.
He always talked badly about his own father, but whenever the 45 year old sailor needed anything ~ cash, nautical advice, new equipment for his sailboat, etc, his father was the first person he called.
I don't even like to recount this stuff from memory because it was so damaging and ugly at the time, but as I said, I am curious if the misogyny is a main character trait of narcissistic men (or women, I guess, for that matter).
Yes, they do seem to hate their mothers. Their Moons are often challenged by either Saturn or Pluto or both.
Those that have strong Cancer energy seem to make a special sub-category that enjoys being both submissive and dominating to their mothers. Some exploit the wife/gf at the mother's advancement, while others do the opposite. And some just are submissive to their mothers and the wife takes the mother's place when the mother is gone. I was just reading another one's chart today, 5th house CaSo90LiPl, 6th house Le Sa 0 Mo, his gf is around 20 years younger, he is still living with his mom. ahahahahhaha 7 subjects are co-dependents with their mothers and/or wives
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