Insideoutorange, I just want to make a suggestion of a tad wiccan nature.
And since you and I seem to be going through similar things right now for some reason I just want to share this with you.
Just a few weeks back I realized I still had 'stuff' from my ex..a t-shirt and poems he had written many years ago that I clung too.
I ceremoniously completed my own ritual of release by tearing up everything I had of his and burning it repeating the phrase " I release all my anger and hurt and release myself to new love and life' 3x .
Then disposed of what was left to the earth.
Then I did the old wiccan trail of roses to my door to invite new love in. It was on the new moon prior to the full one.
Now I don't necessarily believe in majic but I do believe in frame of mind. A ceremony of release is a psychological 'tough love' thing getting rid of things that 'bind' you.
New moons are good as they represent new beginnings. The next new moon eclipse will be opposite your MC or conjunct your 4th of endings. This might be a good time to do it or any new moon really but certainly this one would release you and allow your ego to free itself from the relationship.
And I am not saying too that this person might not come back but the relationship will not take the same 'form'. Since Pluto rules your 7th house it is about death and rebirth or death and resurrection. Neptune too is opposing your sun/moon midpoint dissolving old forms.