I am just starting a relationship with a Venus in Scorpio man (Sun Scorp) and I am a Venus in Gemini (Sun in Aries girl). He's SO romantic and sweet and I was instantly pulled in but I've read Venus in Scorpio and Gemini are a horrible match and I've dated 3 other men who also had Venus in Scorpio. The other guys I found highly intimidating...
The first one pretty much demanded that I commit to him on the second date! lol sorry that just made me laugh because he actually scared the **** out of me as he had been so nice and romantic and then slammed his hand down on the table demanding I commit as he knew that I liked him and I was like ummm maybe we could have a few more casual dates before I decide that (shaking in my boots the whole time!) He chilled out almost immediately but then never took me out again and told me it was because I didn't fess up to telling him EVERYTHING about myself and thought I was dishonest for it... huh? um second date only here... (he was a sun in sag).
The next Venus in Scorpio I had had a fling with years prior and he said it wouldn't go anywhere, found out years later he was in the middle of a divorce which is why. We were so drawn to each other again and he'd flirted with me over the years but I never gave in. Finally got together again and fireworks again and this time he gave me mountains of attention (almost too much, shocked me) but he'd always ask me re other guys but then tell me that he and I were just friends but then flip out if I went out with someone else... holy confusing! and yeah it was like he was stalking me! but I adored him but found him crazy controlling and demanding (also a Sun in Sag). He was super sexual too always asking for kinky things but also at the same time being all respectful I was really confused and I didn't give in because I had no idea wth he was up to. It ended very badly with him admitting he really really liked me (I would say love) and me admitting the same but then telling me that he didn't like that I went out with other guys and icing me out, I'm thinking I thought we were friends!!!???? ahh
The next guy was pretty simple, he was a sun in Capricorn, he waited it out a bit but we pretty much decided together exclusive pretty fast and then lol of COURSE his work kept him so busy we didn't see each other that much but he'd send me tons of texts that were highly sexual and demanding and so much so that I just ended it almost out of fear over the things he was asking me to do!!!
These men ALL made me feel somewhat intimidated and that's not easy to do because I am an Aries Sun sign woman, but the Gemini Venus in me could literally "feel" the intensity and YES that xray vision looking at me, sizing me up, and btw all 3 of them claimed to have been VERY hurt by women who were not trustworthy in their past... anyway, Venus in Scorpio, I have to say I have almost always stayed away from Scorpios as they do make me nervous but I think I understand them a little better now... I'm just not sure my Venus in Gemini can really offer what they need and/or that I can deal with the possession/jealousy thing...
btw the first one still keeps in touch with me and I do feel like he tests me all the time, asks odd questions re my love/sex life and flirts like hell!
I don't like to be seen as untrustworthy and they REALLY don't understand it at all... I have Venus, Mars AND Ascendent in Gemini but moon in Taurus.