will he get used to a new life?

lana_sa

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I married few months ago,and my husband and i love each other very much,we have no arguments or disagreements except for the fact he misses his old life style...he used to go out and see his friends every night ,they would hang out for a time and then he comes back home.He misses that and i feel like its not ok for him to leave me alone while he is married,he has not done it but he is feeling bored and does not know what to do.He also is scared he will loose them as friends.My question is will this pass? will he get used to a new life as married man?

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rafaella

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No he is not going to get used to this. Common sense girl! Just because you guys are married doesn't mean he shouldn't have a social life. If you are going to keep him at home all day long, sooner or later he will feel caged in and leave this marriage. You both need to have friends of your own, or this relationship is doomed. If I were you, I'd let him see his friends and you can go catch up with yours, or perhaps join him and get some of your friends to come as well in a group. Married couples socialise together and also apart. Its normal. Your jealousy will just kill this marriage. There needs to be appropriate amount of freedom to move in a marriage. No one wants to feel like being in a jail with no contact to the outside world. Right now he is probably slowly building resentment and negativity against you and this marriage.

I do hope you can discuss this with him and perhaps come to an agreement that he can go out one-two days every other week or so, and you can catch up with your friends or family. Or perhaps one day per week you spend apart, this actually will make him miss you more and stay committed to you for longer. Healthy relationships are balanced, where they are committed to each other, have common interests but also have their own interests and friendships to keep them occupied and fulfilled.

Regarding horary chart, your signficators are just separating (mutual separation) and his sig is Venus, retrograde. Moon void, this shows there is no change. He will keep on missing his friends and Venus rx shows he is retreating from you. Actually both have started to drift apart, even though not quite noticeable for you. I'm also not liking Moon/Uranus conjunction. Its not good, if you keep on doing what you are doing, this is not going to be good for you.

Best wishes!
 

lana_sa

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No he is not going to get used to this. Common sense girl! Just because you guys are married doesn't mean he shouldn't have a social life. If you are going to keep him at home all day long, sooner or later he will feel caged in and leave this marriage. You both need to have friends of your own, or this relationship is doomed. If I were you, I'd let him see his friends and you can go catch up with yours, or perhaps join him and get some of your friends to come as well in a group. Married couples socialise together and also apart. Its normal. Your jealousy will just kill this marriage. There needs to be appropriate amount of freedom to move in a marriage. No one wants to feel like being in a jail with no contact to the outside world. Right now he is probably slowly building resentment and negativity against you and this marriage.

I do hope you can discuss this with him and perhaps come to an agreement that he can go out one-two days every other week or so, and you can catch up with your friends or family. Or perhaps one day per week you spend apart, this actually will make him miss you more and stay committed to you for longer. Healthy relationships are balanced, where they are committed to each other, have common interests but also have their own interests and friendships to keep them occupied and fulfilled.

Regarding horary chart, your signficators are just separating (mutual separation) and his sig is Venus, retrograde. Moon void, this shows there is no change. He will keep on missing his friends and Venus rx shows he is retreating from you. Actually both have started to drift apart, even though not quite noticeable for you. I'm also not liking Moon/Uranus conjunction. Its not good, if you keep on doing what you are doing, this is not going to be good for you.

Best wishes!

I did what you mention,we came up with an agreement one day every week...but he still misses every day,and that's not realistic.We all have something we need to give up on.And i was asking about this.He respects my wish but he feels bored
 

rafaella

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I did what you mention,we came up with an agreement one day every week...but he still misses every day,and that's not realistic.We all have something we need to give up on.And i was asking about this.He respects my wish but he feels bored

Does he have a job?
No he shouldn't go out everyday and leave you on your own at home but he shouldn't feel caged in either, there needs to be balance. He will be bored for a time but he will need to find other things to do. You can also have a party at home and invite his friends over. This is something you both need to figure out. Why doesn't he focus on other hobbies besides friends? something that you both can do together?
 
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