thanks, guess it doesn't look that good..
could you elaborate on the opposite and inconjunct moon and sun?
Does it help when the inconjunct sun moon have the same ruler mars?(aries-scorpio)
Sun is identity, aspiration; Moon is feeling life, what your inner life needs. So the opposition is what it sounds like: one's identity and aspiration will be at odds with the other's feelings or needs.
The inconjunct is actually a bit more challenging as it means that Sun Moon do not aspect each other at all according to traditional astrology. The inconjunct/quincunx is referred to in trad astrology as the planets being disjunct by sign. This occurs when planets are 5 signs apart or 1 sign apart. So with the disjunct there is no conflict like in opposition or square. You just don't "get" each other on this matter, can't see eye to eye, so to speak. Disjunct kind of has the sound of what it means if you say it out loud.
The two Suns squaring in a fixed sign will also test your ability to grow and expand your viewpoint.
It does not help that Mars rules the disjunct signs of Aries and Scorp, or as in the case when two planets are one sign apart [in Cap and Aq and are both ruled by Saturn]. It is the planet's inability to 'see' or 'regard' each other from the positions other than traditional aspects that poses the problem.
The two Moon's do sextile by sign and that could be the connection you need if both of you like each other and want to try to make it work. And there are likely other favorable connections between your and his personal planets, [Sun, Moon, Merc, Venus and Mars] that could bring and help hold you together.
The chart doesn't decide. The two of you do.