Venus in Virgo
an interesting question...we all carry a set of personal expectations within us that is based on our past and how we experienced our parent's relationship. You do have the pattern of Venus sq Mars ingrained within you, and that often points to difficulties and challenges in relationships with others. When we combine the interactions between the Moon, Venus and Mars in the chart, we can begin to build a profile of our 'imprinted relationship chemistry.' It is Venus that particularly relates to one's values and expectations about love.
For you, Venus in Virgo is square to Mars in Gemini, and therein is a basic disconnect; the exchange between Earth [practical / physical] and Air [the mind and communications] energies, which are typically not very compatible due to their variable types of expression.
Some typical characteristics of this Venus include:
dedicated, practical, sensitive, insecure, reserved, helpful; very often service oriented and often find themselves playing the nursemaid for partners. You are apt to seek out loners that you feel you can heal and make them feel better.
In return, you expect material and physical security and protection and you tend to expect partners who are genuine and not ostentatious or overbearing. You need to be shown appreciation for your acts of love and kindness.
If your own needs are met, you will offer devotion and willingness to help, but when you aren't shown the same in return you can become critical and nagging. Your Moon is harshly challenged in the chart and that can lead to feeling emotionally insecure and easily disappointed in your expectations. Your moods can fluctuate considerably and you can also feel agitated, restless and impatient.
You were also born at the time of the New Moon suggesting your parents probably had very different parenting styles and that contrast could have set up subconscious programming of contention and difficulty. Was it all already written in the Sky? Very likely, at least within your own psyche.