lisahearts
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Is College even for me? Help
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I think academia can suit you, given your TN in 9th and conjunct MC and Pluto. Sag MC generally means higher learning or leadership in thought/learning.
Plus you have a double water trine. I think nursing could suit you, though perhaps teaching health topics given your 9th house placements.
Venus in Cancer is also in the 6th so some kind of helping profession is seen imho.
If you think your dad as more of an authority figure then look at your Saturn. Saturn does square your Sun which probably means your dad feels ashamed of you, you feel guilty and scared of authoritative people, like your dad. He doesn't understand you at all and feels threatened by you. And also because of that he manipulates you, but not direct confrontation.
Because you are like a shameful burden to him. Your dad is quite controlling of your appearance to others, Saturn in 1st house, he criticizes your physical appearance. But you don't really care about that, that is not the real you, and that's one of the reason why he is so distant from you.
Every time you express your self naturally, you know your dad will disapprove and so you may have to think carefully before self-expressing your opinion, or don't say it at all.
Am I right? I have 4th house sun opp Saturn so the situation is kind of different, but the effects are the same. I know that feeling of not being able to even speak your mind or do what you want even when you are at home, and especially at home. My family is quite patriarchal, my mother and siblings is afraid of him too, both of us suffered. We try not to make him angry by suppressing our opinions, so helpless, but it will blow one day.
I've always heard that a bad aspect with the sun can make the father an obstacle, but does it mean I only face bad experiences with my father? Or men as a whole?
I don't think astrology will ever tell you anything that cut and dried. For this purpose, logic and psychology can answer that question. Your father's behavior is the best indicator of how he'll treat you in the future... leopards don't change their spots... so, yes, you'll probably keep having problems with him until you get away from him for good.
Men as a whole... if your experience of men is based on an abusive father, it's not surprising that you'd have problems with men, real and/or perceived. Not all men are abusive. Many are not. But for you to believe that, you would have to come to know truly good men, and do enough healing of yourself that you would be open to them.
On an astrological note, everything in your birth chart represents many different things at once. Saturn square your sun may indicate your awful father being a major obstacle, but Saturn also has other meanings. It also indicates the part of your own psyche that brings self discipline, drive, boundaries.... In that respect, Saturn can help save you. Setting boundaries and defending them is certainly a necessary part of escaping abuse. In your first house, its message is for your sense of self and how you present yourself to the world.
That may be so. It also may be that the OP's learning style doesn't mesh well with college, or with this particular college environment.I feel like the realities of what's going on here will not really be so clear in your chart.
Because it's really obvious- your parents are the reason you are not excelling in school. If you were in a separate environment- saying going to a small school in the mountains with your own cabin- you would likely excel in school. But with this verbal abuse going around, you are unable to focus on your school-work. Therefore you are taking a long time, and wasting a ton of money on something you are unable to give 100% to based on your environment.
To give advice, you need to know what you're talking about. Lisahearts hasn't shared enough details for it to be clear if this advice is at all appropriate.You've ALMOST got you AA, that's not too shabby, tbh. My advice as a post-degree (in econ) and independent-adult, and not an astrology-- is to drop out. Purely economically- college debt is serious, life ruining stuff. You really don't want to mess around with college in our hike in tuition. For your financial security later in life- drop out for the moment. I suggest highly working full time at your job- or keep it part time and look hard for a better job- maybe like a receptionist for a private physician- something close to your field ideally- but really one that pays more. Work full time, and keep your part time job cuz if you must because then you spend less time getting mentally harassed at home and more time making money. Get savings together and move the heck out of there. From there you could actually finish taking your AA courses. If you got to switch to a cheaper college to afford it- do it just get the AA down.
Also this is some very good long-term advice for your position right now. As you will find if you can get a job even as a receptionist in the health field- you will have an enormous leg up after you graduate on many new-grads who haven't had a proper job yet. You'll be more employable if you exchange work for school right now and return to school when you're not being mentally suffocated.
This advice is highly inappropriate when we're talking about an undeniably abusive parent:Also, give your dad a break- i know it's hard, but cut it for him. He did care for you as a baby- he does love you. He's obviously just as upset as you are cuz he's made you feel this way.
Ive had problems with him since a child, he used to hit me now hes very emotionally abusive but working $8.50/hr jobs isn't enough for me to move on my own.I dont know why but Ive always felt if I had a life far away from my father Id be doing much better, his emotional abuse has literally drove me into depression
I actually give that advice because I too have been abused by a parent and it can really help you stay sane. I don't think he deserves a break legally-- but for her own well-being, she deserves it. It's like forgiving people who really don't deserve it because you deserve peace. I have given more than enough validation that this abuse is real and life-ruining.This advice is highly inappropriate when we're talking about an undeniably abusive parent:
she wrote in bold, first postI don't think she's said how close she is to her degree.
I do hope in 4 years she has completed enough of an AA certificate to be-able to finish on her own, while living on her own.Im going onto my 4th year of college, still struggling to complete an Associates degree .
However, forgiving does not mean excusing them. When you said, "He's obviously just as upset as you are," that sure sounds like an excuse! Also, nothing lisahearts posted gives any indication that her father feels badly about what he's done to her. So where does that "obviously" come from? It's sure not obvious to me!I actually give that advice because I too have been abused by a parent and it can really help you stay sane. I don't think he deserves a break legally-- but for her own well-being, she deserves it. It's like forgiving people who really don't deserve it because you deserve peace. I have given more than enough validation that this abuse is real and life-ruining.
That doesn't necessarily mean she's that close to done. I had a friend in college, when I was getting my AA degree, who spent four years trying to get the AA degree and still wasn't done. He had learning disabilities that hindered him, but his family put so much pressure on him to go to college and get a degree--and he did move away from home to do it--that he kept right on trying, even though it really wasn't working for him.she wrote in bold, first post
I do hope in 4 years she has completed enough of an AA certificate to be-able to finish on her own, while living on her own.