Similar, but not the same...My Pallas in in Aries (9th) in the middle of Sun-Lilith- Venus-Mercury stellium, with Sun and Lilith being closest by degree (less than 2 degrees for each one, they sit on either side). It is trine Uranus in the 5th and sextile Jupiter in the 6th...
Got into REAL (LOL) astrology very suddenly and unexpectedly, after knowing for years (and taking seriously) characteristics by Sun sign. It's was like a door to the completely different world opened all of a sudden
Analyzing relationship with my husband was more of a consequence, than a reason here and brought me a deeper understanding why it has been happening the way it did (difficult, with lots of delays and obstacles) Lot's of karma, judging by the double-whammy Sun square Saturn, his Saturn opposite my Vertex + Plutonian theme (quite obsessive relationship as well) with his Pluto opposite my Venus-Mercury conjunction and my Pluto exactly conjunct his Vertex + Uranus and a couple other things...with close two-way Vertex contact it's as fated as a relationship can get LOL
Which brings up an off topic question - what's your interpretation on his South node conjunct my Chiron in Gemini (my 10th and his 12th, conjunct his ASC 2 degrees)?