You don't have Saturn/Venus conj but you DO have Saturn/Mercury conjunct....and they are in a t-square with the Moon (opposing in Leo) and Pluto...squared in Scorpio.
The 6th house is Virgo's natural house. Virgo is the sign of ''discrimination'' .....distinguishing between ''positive or negative'', ''good and bad'' , worthy or unworthy, etc.
Saturn is the task master. IT, conjuncting Mercury it will make Mercury more conscious of the ''flaws'' in others....esp. with the opposition to the Moon. The Moon has a lot to do with socializing and females. The opp with Saturn Merc, and the square from Pluto will make you much more reticent to be involved with the usual type of socializing.
In other words, if you want to socialize more, you will have to ''teach yourself'' to be more tolerant and open minded and accepting of the shortcomings and flaws of others.
You mention ''work'' - so do you have a job? A full time regular job? Because the 6th house is the house of work....and theoretically, a 6th house person who works steadily is better adjusted than one who does not. But if you work, do you have to work with others? Or are you on your own or not required to be on a team of any sort?
Work WILL take up a LOT of energy....but because Venus and the Sun are also in that house, it is important for you to work. That 6th house represents a LOT of responsibility. And one could make the case that Mars, also, works for the 6th as it conjuncts the Sun. So a LOT is happening there. It does not highlight socializing and easy friendships. It's a serious place. Maybe too serious.
It looks like you will have to work on that area to get everything from it that it promises.....
The opposition to the Moon gives you the impression that you can either satisfying your feelings or your work responsibilities but not both. If this is true, you will ''burn out.'' So....do some research about how to get fun into your life....all work and no play....as the saying goes.....
A thought about your husband's feelings about your being more tolerant. It is true that we all need to be more tolerant of others....but that does not mean trusting them with important data and feelings.
You can have casual friendships and acquaintances without risking being betrayed or hurt by not allowing yourself to put your ''faith'' in other people. Yu can enjoy someone's company for the ''moment'' or a while, but it need NOT be an ''all or nothing'' situation.
Actually, Aquarius is noted for being able to have superficial relationships. Enjoy the people you are with when you are with them, but don't embroil them in your intimate life. There is nothing wrong with that if you can't do more than that.
If you don't expect too much of others you won't be so disappointed when they don't live up to your expectations. Do you see what I mean? Perhaps in the past you made the mistake of getting too close in friendships too fast and were hurt. There is a ''middle ground.'' You just need to figure out what that middle ground is for YOU.
LIN