leomoon
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I wasn't sure where to put this question. Its a simple question yet has myriad implications for either yes or no.
This daughter has been a worry for many years(15 yrs), with her poor choice of b.f. Finally, "he left", but only moved a short way away, and she likely still loves him enough to have him involved in her life via a trust she had made that included him (for life I'm presuming)
According to her parents (us) we've always seen him as a gigolo type of guy. She always paid his bills, his car insurance, his everything, years of schooling, etc.
Now that he is gone., (not really gone), she finds the house she bought with her own money but put him on the deed too; to be far too much work and care since it's just her and her pets.
I agree with that, because when you buy a house, you are buying a job in maintenance.
She called her dad and told him her plans since just returning last week from a month in Greece. We knew she was thinking of scaling back, because she told us before she left for this 1st ever vacation she took overseas, to clear her head. She's "between jobs", and thought they all were promising at one time which proved to be otherwise. Nothing worked out much for her.
NOW she wants to find a way to retire early (she's 47) and is just suffering from burn-out. Capricorn Sun Taurus Moon, Scorpio Rising, she's a workhorse, but I was glad to find out she saved even while supporting both of them for 15 yrs, and feels she can make it on her own without a "job" any longer. Real Estate markets are very hot now, and she "feels" that if she bought a condo it might be possible she could pay cash with the proceeds she gains from this home she bought for THEM (but there is no them now)
Question: Should we get involved? Our inner guidance is saying "no", but we've never said no to any of our daughters who needed financial help before.
The only "fly in the ointment", is "HIM", his parents taught him how to steal houses from others. Even his own brother said, "watch, he'll get that house away from her", years ago, and sure enough, I find out now, it's in TRUST for both of them.
If there was no "him", I'd buy the condo for her in a heartbeat, as we aren't making any money on our money anyway. We are too old for stocks and we arent' in the market. But I would be able to swing the condo (which isn't on the market) and needs a lot of work to bring it up to par. Carpeting, Painting, etc. That isn't a big deal, as again, "she is a workhorse".
My heart tells me YES, my head tells me NO.
What do you all see?
This daughter has been a worry for many years(15 yrs), with her poor choice of b.f. Finally, "he left", but only moved a short way away, and she likely still loves him enough to have him involved in her life via a trust she had made that included him (for life I'm presuming)
According to her parents (us) we've always seen him as a gigolo type of guy. She always paid his bills, his car insurance, his everything, years of schooling, etc.
Now that he is gone., (not really gone), she finds the house she bought with her own money but put him on the deed too; to be far too much work and care since it's just her and her pets.
I agree with that, because when you buy a house, you are buying a job in maintenance.
She called her dad and told him her plans since just returning last week from a month in Greece. We knew she was thinking of scaling back, because she told us before she left for this 1st ever vacation she took overseas, to clear her head. She's "between jobs", and thought they all were promising at one time which proved to be otherwise. Nothing worked out much for her.
NOW she wants to find a way to retire early (she's 47) and is just suffering from burn-out. Capricorn Sun Taurus Moon, Scorpio Rising, she's a workhorse, but I was glad to find out she saved even while supporting both of them for 15 yrs, and feels she can make it on her own without a "job" any longer. Real Estate markets are very hot now, and she "feels" that if she bought a condo it might be possible she could pay cash with the proceeds she gains from this home she bought for THEM (but there is no them now)
Question: Should we get involved? Our inner guidance is saying "no", but we've never said no to any of our daughters who needed financial help before.
The only "fly in the ointment", is "HIM", his parents taught him how to steal houses from others. Even his own brother said, "watch, he'll get that house away from her", years ago, and sure enough, I find out now, it's in TRUST for both of them.
If there was no "him", I'd buy the condo for her in a heartbeat, as we aren't making any money on our money anyway. We are too old for stocks and we arent' in the market. But I would be able to swing the condo (which isn't on the market) and needs a lot of work to bring it up to par. Carpeting, Painting, etc. That isn't a big deal, as again, "she is a workhorse".
My heart tells me YES, my head tells me NO.
What do you all see?
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