anjelik
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I feel like there is a bit of a strain on the relationship with a close female family member (husband's family). She comes across to me as very combative. If I say something she generally automatically shuts it down as if she is the final say of all subjects. As an example, in March 2020 I expressed concerns about Covid and she shut me down and said I need to educate myself because it is just like a flu (she is a nurse, so she obviously knows everything...ha). Fast forward to months later and she had done a complete 180 in her opinion. Another example was that I recently said I did not want to get the AstraZeneca vaccine because I have a history of clotting, hence why I cannot take any hormonal birth control and was prescribed blood thinners after the births of both of my children. She basically told me I am an idiot and I have a higher chance of developing a clot on a plane and I still fly. Yes, this is true but if I have a choice in the vaccine and it makes me uncomfortable I am going to do what makes me comfortable. Anyway, those are just two examples of how she constantly behaves towards me....which led me to look up our synastry. I don't have her birth time so I don't know her rising or where each planet falls...
My Mars in Libra is exactly square her Sun in Capricorn at 18 degrees. My Saturn and Pluto also square her Sun and Mercury (23 degrees Cap). Is this the main culprit to this agitation? It's funny because I feel like we were close when my husband and I first got married but now I feel like she doesn't even make an effort to maintain a relationship with me. Is it me or is it her? Or is it both?
She also does some other things in terms of appearance. She heard I was on a diet (losing baby weight) and told me I shouldn't lose weight because I would be the same weight as her. Odd since I was the same size as her before children. And so she went on a diet and felt the need to tell me she lost 10lbs when I never asked or told her anything about my weight loss journey. Another bizarre thing she did was I asked her for the information for the woman who does her botox and I had been asking her for years since I have wanted to get it on my frown lines and around the eyes. She has always avoided giving me the information and when I asked her about 6 months ago she told me the person who does hers isn't doing it now and gave me the name of someone else she heard was good. I went for my first ever botox experience and I ended up with heavy eyelids. Fast forward to 3 weeks later when I saw her on Christmas briefly and she had botox done! I was furious. I don't understand why she would deliberately not share that information with me. When I asked her about it she evaded the question and acted like she had it done only twice in past tense. I just don't get it. I am sorry for rambling but this is all to give context to the strange ways she behaves towards me.
Her Moon in Aquarius (18 degrees) conjuncts my Mercury in Aquarius (14 degrees). Our moon signs flow since my mine is 4 degrees Gemini - both in air so we have that in common. I personally have Venus square Pluto so I am wondering if her Sun/Mercury conjunction aspecting that is causing friction?
It is annoying me because I do like her....but she just does some stuff that I don't like and it makes me feel like she doesn't want me to be happy or better than her or something. I just don't know what it is! I feel like she is someone that I cannot penetrate and she is severely guarded. I have known her almost 10 years and I feel like she keeps everything so surface that it comes off as superficial to me.
My Mars in Libra is exactly square her Sun in Capricorn at 18 degrees. My Saturn and Pluto also square her Sun and Mercury (23 degrees Cap). Is this the main culprit to this agitation? It's funny because I feel like we were close when my husband and I first got married but now I feel like she doesn't even make an effort to maintain a relationship with me. Is it me or is it her? Or is it both?
She also does some other things in terms of appearance. She heard I was on a diet (losing baby weight) and told me I shouldn't lose weight because I would be the same weight as her. Odd since I was the same size as her before children. And so she went on a diet and felt the need to tell me she lost 10lbs when I never asked or told her anything about my weight loss journey. Another bizarre thing she did was I asked her for the information for the woman who does her botox and I had been asking her for years since I have wanted to get it on my frown lines and around the eyes. She has always avoided giving me the information and when I asked her about 6 months ago she told me the person who does hers isn't doing it now and gave me the name of someone else she heard was good. I went for my first ever botox experience and I ended up with heavy eyelids. Fast forward to 3 weeks later when I saw her on Christmas briefly and she had botox done! I was furious. I don't understand why she would deliberately not share that information with me. When I asked her about it she evaded the question and acted like she had it done only twice in past tense. I just don't get it. I am sorry for rambling but this is all to give context to the strange ways she behaves towards me.
Her Moon in Aquarius (18 degrees) conjuncts my Mercury in Aquarius (14 degrees). Our moon signs flow since my mine is 4 degrees Gemini - both in air so we have that in common. I personally have Venus square Pluto so I am wondering if her Sun/Mercury conjunction aspecting that is causing friction?
It is annoying me because I do like her....but she just does some stuff that I don't like and it makes me feel like she doesn't want me to be happy or better than her or something. I just don't know what it is! I feel like she is someone that I cannot penetrate and she is severely guarded. I have known her almost 10 years and I feel like she keeps everything so surface that it comes off as superficial to me.