Hey Katy! Wonderful post!
Yes!! This is what is absolutely necessary. It's the only way this type of relationship can work—most relationships, I think.
She's undeveloped, in a lot ways. And this really goes back to uranus:Asc) and [saturn:)], on her part. In the year 1987, there are a lot of people who have this situation of It's a problem, or can be, because that stabilizing factor that Saturn can often provide is missing, in some ways. It's disrupted. So this "generation" (for lack of a better word) will often find difficulty getting their lives in order, some more so than others. There might be other factors to compensate for this but the strength of Saturn is kind of lost.
This will be an interesting summer, I think. Some hard choices might have to be made. But we shall see. I might go into the read my chart thing again and see what people say about "compatibility" and "chemistry." But the charts tend to show possibilities and potential and actual life kind of shows "what is."
Anyway, thanks for the reply, Katy. Always appreciate your input
So in 87 the Sat/Uranus conjunction was in Sag. That is a difficult placement for the Saturn to be in Sag while joined with Uranus. My son was born just a year later and has Sat/Uranus conjunct too. But it is in Cap so it is much easier on the Saturn. He married pretty young and bought a home and has a baby. Very Saturn oriented kid, compared to the friends of his born in 87. lol
one of his best friends, lived next door when they were growing up. He was born in 87, but was held back in kinder because he was 'immature.' And that became the running joke in his life because he had a problem with acting immature. Class clown, very funny, anything for a joke, with Sag rising and Uranus/Saturn in his first opposed his Gemini Moon.
He has traveled the world, had lots of fun times, many jobs, lots of girlfriends, many at the same time...
But at my son's wedding , our friend told me, when we were both drunk at the reception, that he wished he could learn how to settle down and commit. he wants to but says he always messes it up, almost 'accidentally on purpose.'
[ Our conversation ended on a bad note when he began flirting with my Gemini daughter, who he suddenly realized had grown up to be quite a beautiful girl.--I shut that down quickly...]
That Saturn/Uranus conjunction is a lot to handle, for the native and for others.
Does your girlfriend have her Venus in Pisces or in Virgo?