I'm not a Vedic, but I do think there is a little something more that should be said here. You say that you've had a rough upbringing and so want the chance to start a family of your own. I don't know you, but I've known a number of others in the same boat. The human tendency in that situation is to irrationally cling onto the idea of your own family. This will be an irrational clinging in the teen years and later turn into an obsession before it finally subsides on its own. If you wait for it to subside on its own, you will likely be old and wrinkled before you get to start a decent family. The worst part is that you actually can start a family before this point. You should
not start a family until you have completely changed yourself.
You must dismiss all that you ever thought you knew about families and how family members act with one another. You must clean yourself. Purge your mind, body, and soul. When you are cleaned and empty, the Truth will become self-evident. Then you will see how you should act. If you try to start a family before you do this, you will likely torture that family with all the same problems inflicted on you. Promising yourself that you'll be different than they were just isn't good enough. You must purge yourself of all of those influences put upon you by your family. Clean yourself, see clearly, decide what should be from a right state of mind, and then you will be able to know how to start that wonderful family. If you don't purge these things from yourself through meditation and contemplation, you will destroy the family that you want. When you are ready to support that family rightly, it will come to you easily. Don't worry about the planets and stars. They will be fine. Work to become what you should be and you will gain a chance at what you want.
I just noticed how old this thread is. Hopefully someone who needs it will read it.