The other planets and aspects determine a lot of this - you can have Venus in Aquarius but if Sun is in Capricorn and Mars and Moon in Taurus, the complexion could be considerably different. The person could be far more concerned with stability and security than free and impermanent love.
I have Venus in Gemini which is supposed to be considered fickle (as well as a Gemini Sun and Mercury) - but I have a Leo Moon on the 4th cusp and Mars in Virgo - loyalty and stability are important to me. I'm only fickle in the fact that if you betray me or flake out, my in-love-edness can disappear quite easily and absolutely. But it isn't fickle to start, quite the opposite. I'll put up with quite a bit for quite a while before that point is reached. The traditional interpretation as you consider it would say the opposite, that I would be fickle and continually swayed in love by the next best thing that comes along and back again.
The other day I was having a conversation with my best friend about love and relationships and how opposite people attract/fascinate each other. I was looking at the fact that she has Venus in Libra and I have it in Scorpio and how practically we're the antithesis of the other!!! But still we're the best of friends ever! I read somewhere that Fire/Earth signs are opposite as well as Water/Air and how despite the differences and the tension the fascination and the sparks that come out of the friction are what tie this people together but even though our relational (VENUS) signs are in different elements I was wondering how'd it be with an actual square and Aquarius came to my mind. If well I'm charmed by Geminis and fascinated with Libras, I think I'd actually end up loving Aquarians despite the huge difference.
We both share something: Aquarians and Scorpios venuses LOVE the truth/honesty. We are both loyal signs and we both take unconventional routes when it comes to courtship/flirting. Aquarians love eccentricity, change, difference from the traditional, and what's more different than the norm than Venus in her detriment, Scorpio? As for Scorpios, we LOVE danger. Ask anybody with a Venus in Scorpio and they will tell you how the smell of danger, the underground, the PROHIBITED sounds erotic. There's a difference all in all though, a big one that's accentuated by the fact that we both are fixed signs: Scorpios operate on the emotional level and Aquarians on the intellectual one.
We don't know how to express love and that's the biggest reason as to why is in detriment in Venus (along with Aries). We just don't know how! And if we do, it's some sort of cryptic message we expect you to instinctively know, and that's what may hurt or frustrate Aquarians. On the other side, as they want communication feedback, they might not be so preoccupied or tuned in with the emotional side. There are times you "feel" something is wrong with the other and their need to tell you acknowledge it in some kind of way that "feels" in that vein. To an Aquarian, unless you tell them how you're feeling, they might NEVER gonna guess what's wrong with you, unless you're in a relationship with them for years and they know how you function (though they might never decipher that emotional part and it's better that way because that way the will always stay intrigued by you?).
At the end, both signs need each other. Looking at the psychological side of astrology, the same of the same is not good enough for anybody, and not for us specially. Scorpio wants something REAL, something out of the norm as much as Aquarius wants it. Scorpio needs the logical approach of Aquarius to heal its emotions and to go out into the lighter side of life and enjoy. Aquarius might teach us that not everything is emotionally intense and secrecy and fallacy and hidden things. They're the most open when in love! Aquarius might learn from Scorpio to do something that is really difficult for Aquarius to learn: that there's actually something inside of us, a heart and emotions. Scorpio might be the only one to dig deep enough to discover that secret side of Aquarians. Attachment can grow between these two signs! Scorpio loves you for everything you're deep inside, even for your mistakes, your flaws, your most ugly side, because in the end, that's the real you: you HAVE flaws. We can teach Aquarians about the importance not of attachment, but the concept of having something that worths it stick around. Aquarians are the most accepting lovers and nothing out of the norm scares them, and that's what might attract us: the feeling that we're appreciated even when we feel excluded or as loners because with don't feel okay in the way we interact or express ourselves.
I personally don't believe in the idea that Scorpios can't be detached in love or Aquarians can't commit. Specially the idea that they can't get along and fall in love, when we have examples of them: the love between Demi Moore (Scorpio Venus) and Bruce Willis (Aquarius Venus), or the recent one between Kings of Leon vocalist Caleb Followill (Aquarius Venus) and Lily Aldridge (Scorpio Venus). Aquarians can get married and feel deep love, in fact they can express it better than we Scorpios do:
But you rub me the right way,
With your child-like persuasion
I got my hands in my pockets
And I'm crossing my fingers
She'll find I'm a simple
Stone washed up and so slow
I'd take one in the temple
I'd take one for you
That's from Kings Of Leon's "Temple" song from their recent album (and when you read the lyrics to most of their songs, you can actually see how he words his feelings). I think the last lines I remarked express what I want to say about them.
SO! Aquarians and Scorpios (VENUS) how have been your experiences with each other? Too frustrating or have you found a midpoint between your personalities? What do you think of the other Venusian sign?
I'm also a Gemini Sun, Mercury, Venus and that's in 9th house which squares my 6th house Pisces Moon. Most would think that combo is going to be flirtatious, fickle and flakey, and a complete (both emotional and physical) cheater. I'm not anywhere close to that. It's true that I'm adventurous and enjoy doing a lot of different things, but as far as personality is concerned, I'm actually quite reliable, although, I'll admit, I do get very tired out if I'm relied on too much or all the time.
However, the determining factor is that I have an exact Venus-Pluto trine. Where Pluto is concerned, there's extremes that come into play and it's all or nothing. That's precisely my case. I once had it "all"- I married young and love was all encompassing and very intense. Before and after the marriage, I had/have nothing-I'm not dating nor have any interest to bother with it. I either feel strongly about something or someone (positive or negative) or there's nothing and I won't be bothered with it.
It seems so black and white and not at all typical of Gemini energy at all.
I understand that, actually the synastry tells a lot about compatibility, but I guess in the end it's just about the people involved and timing too I guess. 4 months ago I was involved with a man 5 years older than me whose chart made a good synastry with mine. It had the Mars-Venus oppositions and trines, Venus-Venus sextiles, Venus-Saturn trine and sextiles, Moon-Sun sextile, actually it had a lot. But in the end, it wasn't about the chart. Nothing in the world could stop the fact that he wasn't what I needed nor I was what he wanted at the moment. Even though we had a good synastry we left things clear and we don't talk to each other anymore and I have to say that I incited that.
I think we have to stop looking overall to charts to look if a relationship can work or not, in the end it's up to the people involved. I think it goes beyond of what we already know from our charts and that's why I wanted real Venus in Scorpio and Venus in Aquarius to tell their experiences!
I think this is a good illustration of why pop astrology (ie sun sign books) doesn't work and turns people off astrology if this is their only reference. I have Sun/Jupiter/Mercury/Venus in Gemini in the 1st so the pop astrologists say I'm flighty, spacey, fickle, social butterfly. Not even close. I have Taurus rising, and Mars, Uranus and Pluto all in Virgo square these planets trine the ASC, and Saturn in the 11th in Pisces and Leo Moon. To people who don't know me, I'm the strong silent type to whom you don't want to get on my bad side. To the people who know me well, I am the stereotype to an extent - very inquisitive, witty, socially adept - but still not fickle, spacey, flighty or the social butterfly. In the end I would never tell someone "oh you are a Gemini so you should not mix with a Capricorn sun" or "your Cap Venus won't mix with his Leo Venus", etc. Anything can mix with the right supporting cast.
You're a 1966 Gemini? Heh. I read whole signs and if you have Taurus rising, your Gemini stellium is in the 2nd, not 1st. Thank goodness for that right? If you had Gemini rising and all that Gemini energy was really in 1st, yikes, you'd be a nervous wreak!! I think the stabilizing factor for your chart (from the info you gave) is that of Mars. Taurus Mars is probably the most stable and most calm Mars any of the signs, more calm than Cap Mars (which has an obsessive compulsive need to plan everything to the T). Mars in the 1st house generally is one of aggression, but if it's Earth Mars on the rising, you'd get someone much more anti-Mars and placid.
1965. I have a very crowded 1st house, NN and vesta are there too. Venus in Gemini is in the 2nd. Mars is trine the ASC to 2+ degrees so I think that is where the stability comes in. Makes me cute too.
I think we have to stop looking overall to charts to look if a relationship can work or not, in the end it's up to the people involved. I think it goes beyond of what we already know from our charts and that's why I wanted real Venus in Scorpio and Venus in Aquarius to tell their experiences!
Well, like I said, I go by whole signs and by what you described before, I see all the Gemini stuff is in 2nd house, as Taurus rising is the 1st which would make for a more fixed person.
If you really had the Gemini stellium in the 1st house, you'd really be a nervous wreak. I've met a lot of Gemini rising with Gemini stellium and they're loony. I even dated one (briefly) even that was very hectic and emotionally draining.