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, this does indeed add some more background - and both of these present you with major challenges but in somewhat different ways.
For one the first chart seems to have an unaspected composite Venus which instead was receiving a conjunction from Pluto - did this association sort of start up relatively recently?
The big problems here are the Saturn-Uranus conjunction (basically there is this 'crazy' feeling around which direction to take the relationship in and lots of stress and anxiety around this - this is a very difficult aspect to put up with in a composite. The other problem is that Moon-Uranus square which seems rather exact - with this aspect both of you would need plenty of emotional freedom so this isn't the best for achieving closeness if that is what you are after - and both composites have sun aspects so maybe you do prefer a more detached style?
The second chart has a different problem in that the composite moon is conjunct both Saturn and Uranus and is being pulled in two different directions because of it - so at times it may seem like there is serious emotional sharing but at others distance and aloofness. Not sure how this would work out either but it seems slightly less troublesome than the first chart. (I don't really factor in what each person does, just the charts and planet placements.)
Looks like you are quite aware of what these aspects mean since you pointed them out.