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Unread 12-15-2016, 03:29 PM
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I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

I don't know what to do about this I really enjoy having him and I don't want it to end.
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Unread 12-15-2016, 03:37 PM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

Why do you worry that it will end?

Do you want a relationship or just sex?
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Unread 12-15-2016, 03:40 PM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

I want us to be friends and have sex I don't want a relationship. I worry because he and I argue but I like him and I love the sex. I don't know what to do or how I can fix this.
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Do you want a relationship or just sex?
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Unread 12-15-2016, 03:44 PM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

I predict this is going to be another thread where OP post one line questions and everybody writes short stories to explain the situation to her. Guaranteed 5+ pages.
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Unread 12-15-2016, 03:46 PM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

I don't know what you mean I'm just saying how I feel about this situation. I have never experienced sexual desire like this before. I just wish we could keep having a sexual fling.
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I don't know what you mean I'm just saying how I feel about this situation. I have never experienced sexual desire like this before. I just wish we could keep having a sexual fling.
You're an adult right? Do what you phucking want. Do you really need to agonize over a non-issue?
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Unread 12-17-2016, 08:46 PM
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I predict this is going to be another thread where OP post one line questions and everybody writes short stories to explain the situation to her. Guaranteed 5+ pages.
Well, that was an understatement
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Unread 12-17-2016, 08:47 PM
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Well, that was an understatement
I should play the lottery more
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:11 AM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

Omg, your making it such a big deal and complex, lol. Just go to him and tell him that you just want to be friends that have sex with eachother. Simple, easy, and no hesitation behind it.
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Omg, your making it such a big deal and complex, lol. Just go to him and tell him that you just want to be friends that have sex with eachother. Simple, easy, and no hesitation behind it.
Yeah but I reckon he can sense she is emotionally attached. It's written all over this thread.
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:26 AM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

Don't let them fool ya. Guys can be just as needy if not more when it comes to relationships.

Ask yourself whats more important? The friendship, or the sex.

And know that it's rare to be able to maintain both.

Truth is, sex changes relationships and often in a situation like this one of the people involved will end up getting hurt.

Having venus in scorpio conj the asc, im very all or nothing when it comes to love. I have high standards for a mate. I'd rather be alone than not feeling it. So i've had to sacrifice the sex because guys end up gettong attached and having their feelings hurt. I'd rather be there for them as a friend. There's power in the p.. You know.. We have to take responsibility of that.
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:36 AM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

I'm a Venus in Scorpio too. It kind of ***** sometimes. Sometimes, I wish I was a Venus in Gem
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:38 AM
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The thing you do to a lollipop is actually edited it out... didn't know that was actually considered a "swear"
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:56 AM
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The thing you do to a lollipop is actually edited it out... didn't know that was actually considered a "swear"
Go figure. Shitty isn't censored, but Suc/ks is. Bunch of others too.
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We all can't be perfect you guys

Woah, am I too late for this party? Alright then, coooooooool. I'm just going to leave that there.

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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:53 AM
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That's exactly how I see things!! (bolded)...my own lack of feeling kinda surprised me but the fact that he had sex with other people didn't bother me in the slightest... I get the no commitments thing, but no emotional at all? That's impossible for me, if I'm being honest. I can't see people as just bodies. If I didn't want any emotion at all, I'd just use a vibrator. It's like, get yourself a sex robot or something because if you treat women this way, they're going to have an emotional response no matter what so
...Might as well not **** around then!

But me being so fixated was quite strange to me, considering my Venus and it's disposer being so strong in Gemini. Must be my fixed Moon and ascendant.

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Oh, and to answer your question, he did talk to me that one time we hung out afterwards, that's when he told me he didn't want emotional attachments (which I knew anyway) but that was it.
Why'd he ghost you for so long then? Wonder if he would've avoided you altogether had you not texted him.

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And as for the whole relationship thing, I felt like this guy was compatible with me personality-wise, like if we had met as just friends everything would have been fine (in fact his chart is very similar to my best friend's) but our approach to relationships is obviously very different and that's the problem. I feel like in order to be in a relationship, I'd have to force myself to be with someone who I'm not only not attracted too but also incompatible with personality-wise.
Personality is phucking important and I'd never compromise on that one thing. No matter how "hawt" a girl is, if you can't sit down and just enjoy each others company, no point in being together imo.
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Unread 12-17-2016, 01:04 AM
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...Might as well not **** around then!

But me being so fixated was quite strange to me, considering my Venus and it's disposer being so strong in Gemini. Must be my fixed Moon and ascendant.



Why'd he ghost you for so long then? Wonder if he would've avoided you altogether had you not texted him.



Personality is phucking important and I'd never compromise on that one thing. No matter how "hawt" a girl is, if you can't sit down and just enjoy each others company, no point in being together imo.
I think because he was afraid/confused/getting his thoughts together. He most definitely was afraid I'll tell you that and it didn't seem like he really knew what he wanted

So agree on the last comment
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:55 AM
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We all can't be perfect you guys

Woah, am I too late for this party? Alright then, coooooooool. I'm just going to leave that there.
Pretty late I'd say. But post some more, new member named Bigstar.
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:58 AM
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Pretty late I'd say. But post some more, new member named Bigstar.
LOL, I'm starting to post more on here lately. As you can see I come and go on this forum quite often. I'm just marking my presence on this thread, that's all.
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Unread 12-17-2016, 12:45 AM
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I'm a Venus in Scorpio too. It kind of ***** sometimes. Sometimes, I wish I was a Venus in Gem
Yeah i know what you mean but i've come to appreciate the placement. I enjoy being single and when i do fall in love.. It's mindblowing Lessons in love have taught me to have an indomitable strength and willpower.
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Yeah i know what you mean but i've come to appreciate the placement. I enjoy being single and when i do fall in love.. It's mindblowing Lessons in love have taught me to have an indomitable strength and willpower.
Awwwww, that was really cute actually. You go kick some *** and take names!!!
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Unread 12-17-2016, 01:00 AM
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Re: I don't want to stop having sexual relations with this guy?

Does my chart show why I really want to travel?
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Unread 12-17-2016, 01:07 AM
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@Bluebell I don't think he was getting over an ex. He didn't seem like the type to really "do" relationships if you know what I mean, at least not for the time being. There was other **** going on in his life though, I know that.

This other confusing guy I liked over the summer (and never had sex with or anything) had MAJOR problems with his ex and that definitely influenced his behavior but now they're back together and I think it's for the better, I thought he was hot and he obviously thought I was too but I couldn't picture us being in a relationship together, too different

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@Bluebell I don't think he was getting over an ex. He didn't seem like the type to really "do" relationships if you know what I mean, at least not for the time being. There was other **** going on in his life though, I know that.

This other confusing guy I liked over the summer (and never had sex with or anything) had MAJOR problems with his ex and that definitely influenced his behavior but now they're back together and I think it's for the better
Ah ok, he sounds awful then...i dont get why guys or girls play with emotions its so selfish and hurtful. im basicallyy dealing with these intense hurt feelings but then thats not just guys i do that with i suppose. its life. my heart bleeds constantly euuuuuuuugggh
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Unread 12-17-2016, 01:19 AM
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Ah ok, he sounds awful then...i dont get why guys or girls play with emotions its so selfish and hurtful. im basicallyy dealing with these intense hurt feelings but then thats not just guys i do that with i suppose. its life. my heart bleeds constantly euuuuuuuugggh
Calm down and breathe. Are all buried emotions fluttering to this thread, now? This is extremely interesting to observe actually.
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