Lykanized
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I'll post my chart, but I know the most obvious issues are my Venus squares to mars and my moon. Venus in Gemini trining my Libra Jupiter I would assume is a good relational aspect, but those squares...
What I can say is that I have a whole mess of issues involving love and relationships. I think my boundaries aren't solid and I can be very capricious in getting to know people, perhaps a little naive and careless. I don't mean that I have bad intentions, but I mean that I 'fall in love too easily' so to speak. I get excited about people who are interesting and fascinating or intense, people I can explore with, people who show me something new. I fall into states of false love, like instahoneymooning. At first, nothing is too serious for me, but in an instant, at some point I'll become attached while the other person is in a more balanced state of building attraction. Then I start to get obsessive and spiteful. That's the gist of it. Admitting I become obsessive is hard for me to do, but I do become obsessive at this point typically. I start getting jealous if they show attention to anyone else or don't show enough to me,...and I can have a very vicious tongue too. I know what to say to hurt people. Once I do that, I've ruined it completely as I've basically made people feel comfortable trusting me and getting close to me, then turned on them. And I don't mean to do that either. My intentions are always benevolent. I love people, but at some point things just turn. I'll become paranoid too and I really do hate that about myself
The only cure I can think of is to try and stave off those feelings of 'falling in love' too fast. I have a woman I'm talking to right now and unlike other times I've 'talked' with women, this time I was very straightforward. I told her that I knew if we started going in a sexual direction or if we started flirting too much, I'd eventually become too attached and ruin everything, become poisonous and vicious. I want to build a stable relationship if it's to happen with anyone and I'm just trying to learn how to do that
I enjoy flirting, I love being playful, I love kissing, I love sex. I love it all. I deeply desire a real, intimate connection with someone. I don't do superficiality so I think that may be one part of the issue. I become instantly intimately connected even before knowing the person enough to be so connected if something about them piques my interest. Idk if that makes sense. When getting to know people, I have a way of digging to the depths, sharing a lot about myself and making people feel comfortable opening up to me, and when that happens is when I start getting attached. In other words, I'm thinking perhaps I take all of what I know about them, amplify it, and perhaps idealize them or imagine I know them more than I really do
I have trouble trusting people on some level too so at first, I won't let myself get too attached despite deep conversation, but once I feel like I can trust them, it's all in and no looking back
It's like there's an on/off switch and I'll just go from off to on when that's not how it's supposed to work
I'm wondering if there are things beyond the obvious that I'm not seeing in my chart that may lead to relationship issues and possibly how I can work on these things. I don't think I've ever had a truly healthy relationship. Even with friendships I have similar issues where at first I don't feel so attached whatsoever, but the switch turns on and I become attached to the degree I become jealous if they show more attention to others, even if I haven't known them as long and I don't know why this is because it makes absolutely no sense
I also have an issue on the note of that on/off switch where at some point in getting to know someone, I'll either become too attached, or not attached at all
What I can say is that I have a whole mess of issues involving love and relationships. I think my boundaries aren't solid and I can be very capricious in getting to know people, perhaps a little naive and careless. I don't mean that I have bad intentions, but I mean that I 'fall in love too easily' so to speak. I get excited about people who are interesting and fascinating or intense, people I can explore with, people who show me something new. I fall into states of false love, like instahoneymooning. At first, nothing is too serious for me, but in an instant, at some point I'll become attached while the other person is in a more balanced state of building attraction. Then I start to get obsessive and spiteful. That's the gist of it. Admitting I become obsessive is hard for me to do, but I do become obsessive at this point typically. I start getting jealous if they show attention to anyone else or don't show enough to me,...and I can have a very vicious tongue too. I know what to say to hurt people. Once I do that, I've ruined it completely as I've basically made people feel comfortable trusting me and getting close to me, then turned on them. And I don't mean to do that either. My intentions are always benevolent. I love people, but at some point things just turn. I'll become paranoid too and I really do hate that about myself
The only cure I can think of is to try and stave off those feelings of 'falling in love' too fast. I have a woman I'm talking to right now and unlike other times I've 'talked' with women, this time I was very straightforward. I told her that I knew if we started going in a sexual direction or if we started flirting too much, I'd eventually become too attached and ruin everything, become poisonous and vicious. I want to build a stable relationship if it's to happen with anyone and I'm just trying to learn how to do that
I enjoy flirting, I love being playful, I love kissing, I love sex. I love it all. I deeply desire a real, intimate connection with someone. I don't do superficiality so I think that may be one part of the issue. I become instantly intimately connected even before knowing the person enough to be so connected if something about them piques my interest. Idk if that makes sense. When getting to know people, I have a way of digging to the depths, sharing a lot about myself and making people feel comfortable opening up to me, and when that happens is when I start getting attached. In other words, I'm thinking perhaps I take all of what I know about them, amplify it, and perhaps idealize them or imagine I know them more than I really do
I have trouble trusting people on some level too so at first, I won't let myself get too attached despite deep conversation, but once I feel like I can trust them, it's all in and no looking back
It's like there's an on/off switch and I'll just go from off to on when that's not how it's supposed to work
I'm wondering if there are things beyond the obvious that I'm not seeing in my chart that may lead to relationship issues and possibly how I can work on these things. I don't think I've ever had a truly healthy relationship. Even with friendships I have similar issues where at first I don't feel so attached whatsoever, but the switch turns on and I become attached to the degree I become jealous if they show more attention to others, even if I haven't known them as long and I don't know why this is because it makes absolutely no sense
I also have an issue on the note of that on/off switch where at some point in getting to know someone, I'll either become too attached, or not attached at all
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