Initially I was very certain that a relationship with him will be bad for us both. He insisted that he wanted no one else. As expected, we both got in some troublesome and stressful situations together, while fighting all the time, for months. We have been together for several months more than a year now. At this point I am already think this is fate, as we were always brought back together at every attempt of separation. So I am trying my best to make this work.
He had always said he's actually depressed, but lately it seems worse. He used to be like an energizer bunny. Always laughing, going on projects, making friends everywhere...and I can't help but think this is my fault. I have been giving him more space, because probably my perpetual drama and negative energy were what brought him down. I have been minding how I say things and try not to come off as being critical of him.
But his depression seems to get worse? He sleeps more than half a day, doesn't have energy, keeps getting sick even though the doctor didn't find anything wrong, lost interest in things that used to excite him. I asked him what was wrong, and he said he was distressed over something that he can't tell me about yet. So that's that about the "why". He's been unusually sweet and pampering, and he doesn't fight back when I tried poking at him (figuratively).
I wonder how to support him better? Do I give him more space, or try to cheer him up? What NOT to do?
Chart: https://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_66gw_bunny_bear.73579.115602.png&res=100
He had always said he's actually depressed, but lately it seems worse. He used to be like an energizer bunny. Always laughing, going on projects, making friends everywhere...and I can't help but think this is my fault. I have been giving him more space, because probably my perpetual drama and negative energy were what brought him down. I have been minding how I say things and try not to come off as being critical of him.
But his depression seems to get worse? He sleeps more than half a day, doesn't have energy, keeps getting sick even though the doctor didn't find anything wrong, lost interest in things that used to excite him. I asked him what was wrong, and he said he was distressed over something that he can't tell me about yet. So that's that about the "why". He's been unusually sweet and pampering, and he doesn't fight back when I tried poking at him (figuratively).
I wonder how to support him better? Do I give him more space, or try to cheer him up? What NOT to do?
Chart: https://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_66gw_bunny_bear.73579.115602.png&res=100