Is this your boyfriend?
I ask because I see a few red flags that could be problematic down the road...
His Saturn in Aries sits right on top of your Mercury. OUCH...
Does he block you from expressing what you want to say?
It is a red flag for me because your Mercury in the 9th, trining your Pluto, is a powerful indicator that you take self expression and ambitions/desires very seriously. You live to communicate and make things happen.
So it would be hard to try and be close with someone whose Saturn sat on top of their Fiery Mercury .
It is like a perpetual feeling of not being heard and not being taken seriously.
There is also a 'double whammy' with Chiron. His Chiron conjunct your Mars in your 4th. And your Chiron conjunct his Pluto, in his 4th.
So you both have Chiron synastry/conjunctions in your natal 4th. So that can be a good thing, if digging up painful emotions is a positive thing overall.
You can be effective healers for each other, but it is a painful process and you may do so by questioning each other and your true feelings/responses/behaviors
I think there is a fair bit of criticism and bickering that goes on and it might not be very smooth when things are emotional.
That is a good aspect to have when it is a close friendship. [chiron conjunctions in 4th] It is like a family type of deep caring. But when it is hyper emotional and personal, it can be stinging and turn ugly and resentful. It brings up deep insecurities in both partners when things are not running smoothly. :angry:
Your Venus/Pluto opposition makes a strong T-square to his Pisces Sun/Merc/Venus. So I think he may feel dependent upon you for guidance and structure, but then resent it, or feel that you are controlling.
Hard not to be felt as controlling when someone with so much Pisces is under your spell...
He is drawn to you like a moth to a flame. And you have no malice or negative intentions. But I think you may be on 2 different pages much of the time.
He is trying to find himself. And with those 3 Pisces personals in the 7th, he often relies upon relationships to help guide him. But the square to Pluto is an internal struggle with that reliance and dependence. It is too easy for him to go with the flow and follow along when he is comfortable with loved ones. And so he feels must resist that impulse at all costs.
You are possibly the collateral damage.
Your Venus opposed Chiron/Pluto fit into his Pisces planets making a perfect right angle. [T-square]
So he is probably both heavily attracted and heavily resistant towards your love and attention. In alternating currents/mixed messages.
Composite:
I can see now, after looking at the synastry, why the composite has this t-square to Pluto in the 4th. I think it is highlighting the double whammy of Chiron conjunctions in each of your natal 4th's.
Thus this relationship is about doing deep emotional work which is transformative, yet painful.
It squares the nodes and the Jupiter in the 1st/7th axis. So the struggle is between the self [1st]and the partner [7th].
Do I follow my North Node in Virgo/1st, and try to attain acclaim in my chosen artistic field/realm ...
OR do I give in to my Jupiter in Pisces in the 7th, and surrender to my need for love and affection and create a solid partnership that fulfills me ?
It is often possible to do both, but the square to Pluto makes that difficult because it FEELS like it is an all or nothing proposition.
The outlet for that opposition is the trine it the Sun in Aries in the 8th. So that says it is possible for both people to be independent, strong warriors and still be in a close intimate relationship. But it takes some work and effort to find that balance.
It does still worry me that the Mercury in this chart does not have any strength. I say that because of the Saturn sitting on your natal Mercury in the synastry. I want you to have a voice and a strong say in this partnership.
But the Mercury here has very few aspects and gets little support. I worry that you don't always feel like you can tell each other the true extent of your feelings.
Or that you might hide negative true things because the relationship cannot endure it?
I don't know, I am rambling now. This relationship confuses me because there is much depth and emotion and yet there are blockages and things that impede your progress. ?