There is no easy answer to "worry" and "anxiety." Things often come into our mind unbidden. What I found worked for me was that each time I noticed that I was worrying,I would think..."This interferes with living in the Now, and is not productive." Then I would shift my attention to something immediate...doing something (work, activity outside the self) helps here. If you just keep trying (without that worry (self-criticism) about worrying), then over time the worry will diminish if not disappear.
For example, at the present -- and during the past year and a half -- my grown daughter has been going through some rather serious life-problems. I have tried to help her, to call her attention to solutions, and so on... to no avail. She had been causing me deep concern (she's my daughter and I want her to be happy and live with wisdom....). The other day I said to myself "No more. It's her life and, like me and everyone else in this boat, she has to live it on her own the best she can." I am done worrying about her.
I simply cannot do anything about it. It is out of my hands, beyond my powers. Therefore, it is foolish to spend my precious energy worrying about it all. "Not my will, but thine be done." It's that simple. Let the Higher Power do the worrying. Enjoy this moment. And with consistent practice you can teach yourself to do that.
If you try, and fail....just keep trying. Sometimes it takes a "Eureka Moment" to reach the goal, and it seems we will never succeed... but then the Eureka comes along and in an instant we have passed the barrier to happiness and left it behind us.
I was on the swimming team in high school. Workouts were exhausting and painful. The coach set personal goals for each of us. And we would work, and work, and work...with absolutely no progress. The frustration was killing. But then very suddenly, in just one day, we would not only reach the goal that had seemed so out of reach, but pass it by. Never to return to the old slower time. We were on a new plateau, ready to set a new goal and new challenge.... And then came more pain and more frustration. But -- we would very suddenly pass the new goal and strive to reach an even higher one. "Quantum Leaps" in body and mind. Learning that as a swimmer has helped me face "defeat" and "frustration" throughout my life. Persistence makes us winners, in both body and mind.
I had some very serious personal problems with my brother. I was filled with anger at him -- call it fury or rage. And for 5 years I could not keep him out of my head, no matter how hard I tried. I work very hard at not carrying anger around with me. But there it was, and I couldn't defeat it. And then one day a new thought, a simple thought, crossed my mind. I saw the truth that caused my anger. And as if by magic, the anger went away, almost instantly. And what is more, what I learned I now apply to all things in my life, and am at peace. I had to find the key...it took 5 years, but despite all the frustration (at myself, for carrying that deep burning fury within me) I never quit trying. And when I did find the key, quite by accident as it seemed, the anger disappeared almost overnight. (It was not by accident; it was because I kept on trying and the Grace of God put the key in my hand.)
Astrology is a very powerful tool for understanding, both of the self and of the universe. But it is not a magic pill that will cure all our ills and take the tears away. There is no substitute for living life. Living is the only way home. Life is full of pain and frustration and tears... But these things are not only necessary, they are vital to our growth and fulfillment.
We impose our desires, our hates and our loves, on life. In other words, we create delusion that blinds us to reality. If we want to live a life full of beauty and love and wonder, if we want to become fully ourselves, we must discard the delusion and look reality square in the face. For as long as I try to make life what I want it to be, rather than face it just as it is...for that long I will live in the chains of the slave and the darkness of the blind.