Senecar, what exactly has been your experience of close proximity to people who are going through the throes of dying? You do not write like a person who has had much experience with dying people close-up and personal.
Of course, everyone who lives will die. Big "Duh-uh" there.
But to compare dying of pancreatic cancer or of major wounds sustained on the battle field with sending a child to school or a high school graduation is either callous in the extreme, or extremely ignorant.
You need to think through the very physical experience of a terminal illness. I just don't think you're there yet.
One big issue with death, is that from our "side of the veil" death is a permanent end to our present material existence. That's it. Finito. Curtains. End. I have metaphysical beliefs about what happens after physical death on the earth plane, but I would be very unwise to paste those on a lonely, terrified patient who did not want to die. If you haven't seen this kind of fear in a patient, I recommend that you volunteer at a hospital sometime soon.
I'm a retiree who gave birth to two children through "natural" unmedicated childbirth. I went through a nasty divorce, and horrible experiences with one job that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemies. Death is unlike any of these. And you should know that.